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Does everyone have these mornings?

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Worriedmum40284 · 16/03/2022 09:22

Husband's first day back in the office in 2 years so first time I've had to get both toddler and 5yo out the door for school without him for emergency backup if needed (toddler can be 'spirited' and not make things easy, as many are). Normally manage it fine without having to disturb him but, inevitably, when he wasn't here this morning, it was a disaster!!

Toddler, who hasn't had a leaky nappy for about a year, does a huge explosive poo whilst sitting on our bed Envy. Then proceeds to throw a MASSIVE tantrum when I try change his nappy and clothes. Cue him banging his head on a door in temper...

Refuses to get in car seat (too late to walk by this point). Realise 5yo car seat not in car do have to sort that. Arrive at school as all other parents coming out of the gate and can't help feel they are all looking at us and somehow know all about the chaos that had just occurred and how bloody flustered I'm feeling. Toddlers vest is flapping out under his top as had no time for poppers and realised his hair is stuck to his forehead in a snotty mess post tantrum Sad He continues with the ironing board pose as I try to wrestle him back into the car and screams all the way home where I struggle to get him out as I've parked too close to the fence in my stressed state.

Feel like having a little cry to myself about what a failure that all was. Toddler is now laughing away on my lap.....

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Mumdiva99 · 16/03/2022 09:24

Yup we have all had them. Tomorrow you will be better prepared.....build in more contingency time.....but it will probably go smoothly.

KatyN · 16/03/2022 09:24

Heavens yes! And every other parent walking out of school was only looking at you because they have all been there.

Oh the ironing board pose, how I don’t miss that

Pyri · 16/03/2022 09:26

That was a disaster?! Sounds like a perfectly normal morning to me Wink

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Brunosaiditlookslikerain · 16/03/2022 09:27

I wish we had an emoji for solidarity like Katniss in the Hunger Games.

Hopeful16 · 16/03/2022 09:30

Yes definitely.
Also had one morning when we arrived at childminder's house 5 minutes earlier than normal and had to stand on the doorstep and check that we were all dressed and "equipped" for the day!
Note it's only ever happened that once! 🙈

JudgeRindersMinder · 16/03/2022 09:33

Every single parent has been there, and toddlers know when time counts -every. Single. Time

Deep breath and a cuppa and this too shall pass!

Isonthecase · 16/03/2022 09:33

We just have occasional day when everything goes wrong, I give up totally and figure no point rushing any more, and he's 20 minutes late Blush I figure once every half term probably isn't too bad...

anothernamedoesntsmellsosweet · 16/03/2022 09:47

Yes every parent was looking at you because they were relieved it wasn't their turn for the morning from hell. Always look kindly on people, you never know when it has been their turn

GeneLovesJezebel · 16/03/2022 09:49

We’ve all been there !
If I was one of those parents coming out of school I’d have been looking at you with sympathy and solidarity.

TulipsGarden · 16/03/2022 09:54

Toddlers can sense when you need them to behave well. Solidarity.

JosephineMarchingOnwards · 16/03/2022 10:07

Not just you…
(ironing board pose! 🤣)

Hope your day gets better

Timeforabiscuit · 16/03/2022 10:10

It's been 12 years, but the memories haven't faded one bit! I'd been giving you eye contact and a small smile of solidarity.

Xiaoxiong · 16/03/2022 10:18

Ugh poor you. Mine are 8 and 10 and I remember so many days like this. Awful. I used to put them in the bath sometimes at 4pm to make bedtime come sooner.

I really really struggled with the toddler stage, as soon as they were a bit older it was easier for me but I just couldn't deal with the complete unreasonableness and lack of any common sense. DH was so much better than me and much more patient.

It gets better, I find every age and stage easier than the one before (so far!) Flowers

gingerhills · 16/03/2022 10:24

Everyone has them. i wouldn't be surprised if toddler is coming down with something. Esplosive nappy and unusual tantrums can mean feeling unwell.

I used to make days like this low-effort days. TV on for toddler. Only give them food you know they eat, preferably that you didn't bother cooking, in case they reject it. Stick a wash load on and cuddle the toddler all day. Everything else can wait.

Worriedmum40284 · 16/03/2022 10:24

Thank you all, that's made me feel better! Think I had blocked these memories from my mind with my first but they're flooding back now.

Sitting down with a cuppa after sorting out the mess that awaited me back at home - time to take a deep breath and put it into perspective!

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Worriedmum40284 · 16/03/2022 10:26

@JudgeRindersMinder

Every single parent has been there, and toddlers know when time counts -every. Single. Time

Deep breath and a cuppa and this too shall pass!

So, so true!
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Roseinbloom20 · 16/03/2022 14:38

This was me on Monday, DH also back in the office and we were doing "ok" until it was time to leave and the nearly 2 year old went absolutely mental when I tried to put on his socks and shoes, I could only manage socks so managed to bribe him into the pram with a kinder (at 8.50 in the morning 🤦🏻‍♀️) then for the first time ever 5 year old decided he wants to ride his scooter to school - he's rode the thing about twice in about a year but today was the day he wanted to ride it to school and could I figure out how to unlock the bastard thing?! So I hate to say sorry DS mummy can't open the scooter but I promise you can ride it home - cue the whiny "but muummmyyy!!" I then went into shouty mum mode "were going to be late, we have to leave now!" 5 year old sulking behind, toddler escapes the pram Houdini style and so I have him under one arm squirming while pushing the pram one handed, call back to 5 year old to hurry up while all the other parents are walking past me on their way home. I give in for 2 minutes and let the toddler walk in just his socks, get to the school in the nick of time then have to get him home - again squirming and fighting me while I'm also pushing an empty pram. It's definitely the looks from the other parents that makes it ten times worse, solidarity 👊🏻✌🏻

betwixtlives · 16/03/2022 15:38

Of course, plenty of them! Flowers

mathanxiety · 16/03/2022 18:17

Part of what made this a bad morning is your own imagination.

You're not a mind reader. Don't put thoughts in other people's heads.

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