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What would you do

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Charlie9481 · 15/03/2022 21:12

Hi, so me and my boyfriend were talking about looking for a flat together. He has a dog, a really really big dog that i don’t get on with. The dog has physically hurt me before many times and i do forever have scarrs on my legs from it. I am unable to trust it at all, in my eyes it is boarderline dangerous as it randomly goes for people and like i said, it’s a really really big dog and i myself am only small lol. As the dog has hurt me before, i have said i could never live with it as inevitably, i would at some point be left alone with it and i obviously am not willing to do that. We also really want a baby and it makes me sick thinking about my baby being around the dog. Now he has fell out with me over it, saying ‘the dog will change’ and he isn’t willing to leave it with his parents. Am i in the wrong for feeling this way lol? He’s choosing a dog over me, and is clearly willing to risk my, and his future baby’s safety. Guess i am going to look a place for just myself lol 🤷‍♀️ What would you do ??

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ConkerBonkers · 15/03/2022 22:19

No you cannot move in with him and you cannot introduce a baby to the mix. If things don't work out between you both, your control over the dogs whereabouts when the baby is with its dad would be minimal. The fact he is seeking to minimise and justify the behaviour of a vicious animal should rightly, worry you greatly. It's a red flag, and a deal breaker.

PerseverancePays · 15/03/2022 22:19

Even though I appreciate that dogs are important to their owners, your boyfriend has shown you where you and your potential baby are ranked: second and third after the dog. If the dog killed your baby he would probably say it was your fault . He is not husband material.

Charlie8877 · 15/03/2022 22:22

@Unanananana

What breed is it?

Your boyfriend is doing this lockdown dog a massive disservice neglecting it by not training it. It'll end up destroyed if it keeps biting. He is a dick.

You are absolutely correct to not want to be near this dog that has already injured you or may potentially injure future children.

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Unanananana · 15/03/2022 22:23

And he wants to keep it in a flat? He sounds thick as mince.

Charlie8877 · 15/03/2022 22:25

Lol i know, it makes zero sense in so many ways.

HollowTalk · 15/03/2022 22:26

I'm more worried about the man than the dog. He sounds absolutely insane. Why on earth would you want to live with a dangerous dog? Why would you want to live with a man who is too stupid to understand this issue? Honestly you would be far better off on your own.

LightSpeeds · 15/03/2022 22:30

The dog is dangerous and your partner's attitude is dangerous. Don't move in with him or even consider having a child with him. Your safety isn't high on his list of priorities.

'The dog will change...' Blimey, I've heard it all now!!!

Bogeyes · 15/03/2022 22:49

Get yourself a boyfriend who thinks something of you. Doesn't your boyfriend value you?

tunnocksreturns2019 · 15/03/2022 22:52

@HollowTalk

This

anotherbloodyyearofcovid · 15/03/2022 22:56

He doesn't love or value you as much as he loves and values his dangerous dog.

What are you waiting for? Get away from them both.

PixelatedLunchbox · 16/03/2022 07:52

@Unanananana

And he wants to keep it in a flat? He sounds thick as mince.

Sorry OP, but yeah, this. You could never trust this dog with a baby either.

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