Does anyone else feel sad when it's their birthday?

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I don't know why, but every year when it comes around again, quite predictably on the same day each time I just feel so down.

It's always a disappointment. I have no plans. I've received some lovely cards, flowers and chocolate from friends, and a present and cake from my husband and toddler but I just really dislike my birthday.

Is it because it was so good as a kid and as an adult, well it sucks. I've not got any plans to celebrate. Is that my own doing? Should I have arranged something? I did try sort something with my friends but only one replied.

Feeling a bit sorry for myself today I guess. Another year older but I'd rather pretend it didn't happen!

Happy birthday wishes!

Maybe it's the doing nothing that's got you feeling down? Try and enjoy your day, next year tell your husband that you'd like a treat sorting for you!

I always do but it's because I know I wasn't wanted.

Happy Birthday! It’s mine today too,

I get what you are saying I gave up a few years ago trying to arrange anything for the day with others and instead fill the day with things I want to do. I book the day off and so all the things I can’t do with the house full of others . Turned birthdays around for me.

Happy birthday!
Yes, I'm exactly the same and would prefer to ignore the day - everybody has one so it's actually nothing noteworthy! I feel sad that my mum's not here, I feel sad thinking about childhood birthdays when life was so innocent and fun. I'd like to have a duvet day on my birthday and not have to pretend to everyone 😞😞😞

Happy Birthday! One of my best adult birthdays, was the summer of 2020, when we were in 'proper' lockdown. I couldn't go anywhere or do anything, but I took the day off work, it was hot and sunny and I spent the day in the kids paddling pool, drinking champagne and reading a new book DC had bought me. There was no expectation of anything else because there was no other option and honestly, it was a fab birthday. For me, it's the feeling that I should be doing something, rather than actually wanting to do anything, that makes me feel bad.

Yes me! Happy Birthday!

Me too! Both parents have passed away. NC with brother and no other relatives other than DH who sticks £50 in a card and says buy what you want. I have a birthday gift waiting for me at a friends house from mid February and I just don't want to go and collect it. I hate being made a fuss off and could quite happily never celebrate another birthday again!

Ahh thanks lovely fellow birthday haters. I should probably organise something for myself to do

I like my birthday. Yeah as an adult it's not really much to shout about but I like that my DD and DP are happy that I was born and want to celebrate that day (my mum and dad too!) that's about all I get cards from. I'm also happy I was born and usually get myself something as well!

I like other peoples birthdays for the same reason, I'm delighted they were born and get to celebrate that day.

Happy Birthday!

I'm autistic and I am indifferent when it comes to birthdays - same for valentines/Mother's Day etc but my eldest DD insists on making an event out of everything. I would prefer to just quietly move along...

Happy Birthday🎂🥂💐

Me as well. As a child I was never made too feel my birthday was special, it is too soon after Christmas.
DH has made significant birthdays really special for me, but now it just marks heading towards old age.

Happy Birthday, Birthday Twin

I kinda feel the same way as you do, like it's a big anticlimax. I have had msgs from family/friends etc but no one has actually called and spoke to me this year, it all feels just a bit flat. DP got us takeaway for tea but has gone to bed as he has an early start tomorrow, I've taken myself off to our hottub with my phone and kindle.

So many birthday twins! Happy birthday you lovely lot.

The day didn't end so good. Found out my mum has skin cancer. Birthdays really are shit

I do, mainly because I miss my Mum and the birthday gatherings we used to have.

Happy birthday! Sorry to hear about your mum, hope she gets the help she needs.

Not a fan my ones From 10 were crap right through till I left home. I loved my 50th because I saved for years brought my 65 inch tv I said it was to make up for every crap one,

My birthday coincides with Holocaust Memorial Day.

Not only is everyone skint at the end of January, the weather's miserable, outdoor attractions are closed for winter and the world remembers millions of slaughtered souls.

Hate it.

I'm not having any birthdays anymore. They make me furious, I'm not entirely sure why. I get really irritable at Christmas too, but I can't cancel that.

They make me furious Brilliant!

Sorry about your mum's news OP.

Mine is after Christmas (2nd January) and a complete non event. I think I will start going out by myself to a restaurant and sod everyone else!

The birthday blues. Yes, I always feel a bit rubbish on my birthday. I never know what to do with it, whether to ignore it totally or tell people or what. Having a big party would never be for me - I'd hate the fuss, and almost find it embarrassing. But if I ignore it completely, I end up feeling sad about that too!
I usually just have a big bubbly birthday bath, and a mindfully consumed cup of tea in honour of being alive. But other than that, I just have a fairly normal day. I'm always mightily relieved when it's over, and that's the day I feel like celebrating! A thank goodness it's over party!
Happy birthday though OP, and other PPs with birthdays today. The good news is, it'll all be over tomorrow, and you can rejoice that'll it'll be a whole year before you have to deal with it again.
It's St Patrick's Day today too! So you can celebrate that instead if you prefer.
But, anyway yes, I totally understand. I think a surprising number of people struggle with their birthdays...

Oh, I'm so sorry OP. I just realised your op was two days ago not today. I also just read about your mum. I'm so very sorry to hear that. Sending both you and her my best wishes