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Unmarried couple buying a house?!

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ConfusedFlower · 14/03/2022 20:16

Can anyone tell me the difference between ‘joint tenancy’ and ‘tenants in common’ ?

Does anyone have any background into which is the best way to go? We are unmarried have purchased a property together.

Would really appreciate it, thank you.

OP posts:
HomeHomeInTheRange · 15/03/2022 11:06

You can Give the baby both your surnames, and keep yours when you marry.

TeenPlusCat · 15/03/2022 11:11

Get married at a registry office.
Then plan a 'big' party for after say 5 years.

Twizbe · 15/03/2022 11:16

Get the legal marriage done before baby is born. It will save you some paperwork as if you marry after you have to re register baby as well as change their name.

You don't have to tell anyone you've done the paperwork and can have the big wedding later.

That said, I've known many couples say they planned to have the big wedding after the kids came along ... none have done it yet ....

TracyMosby · 15/03/2022 19:39

That said, I've known many couples say they planned to have the big wedding after the kids came along ... none have done it yet
And there are many, many threads on mumsnet with this exact scenario.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 15/03/2022 19:45

@Tippexy

It’s sad because having been on here fifteen years, you know exactly how it’s going to play out.
It's not sad all. Not everyone wants to get married!
M0RVEN · 15/03/2022 20:20

It's not sad all. Not everyone wants to get married!

I might be wrong, but I don’t think @Tippexy is sad because the Op might not get to be a princess for the day.

I’m certainly sad because I see yet another woman sleepwalking into a situation where she and her child will potentially be financially screwed over.

The woman takes the maternity leave, the career hit, the loss of promotion , the pension reduction and the mummy career track.

The woman takes on most of the unpaid work of child care, housework, emotional labour and wife work.

She goes back to work part time, her job is less fun and less well rewarded and she does all the unpaid work on top. She is tired and frustrated.

The woman does all this because she believes they are a team , he will appreciate her sacrifices for him and look after her financially.

Then they split up ( as more than half of all couples do ) and she has taken all the risk and financial losses while he walks off into the sunset, complaining that he has to pay child support.

He tells everyone that she wasn’t fun anymore, lost her figure, didn’t pay him enough attention and didn’t pull her weight financially.

He has an excellent income and pension while she struggles to make ends meet and fit being a full time mum around a full time job.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 15/03/2022 20:25

@M0RVEN

It's not sad all. Not everyone wants to get married!

I might be wrong, but I don’t think @Tippexy is sad because the Op might not get to be a princess for the day.

I’m certainly sad because I see yet another woman sleepwalking into a situation where she and her child will potentially be financially screwed over.

The woman takes the maternity leave, the career hit, the loss of promotion , the pension reduction and the mummy career track.

The woman takes on most of the unpaid work of child care, housework, emotional labour and wife work.

She goes back to work part time, her job is less fun and less well rewarded and she does all the unpaid work on top. She is tired and frustrated.

The woman does all this because she believes they are a team , he will appreciate her sacrifices for him and look after her financially.

Then they split up ( as more than half of all couples do ) and she has taken all the risk and financial losses while he walks off into the sunset, complaining that he has to pay child support.

He tells everyone that she wasn’t fun anymore, lost her figure, didn’t pay him enough attention and didn’t pull her weight financially.

He has an excellent income and pension while she struggles to make ends meet and fit being a full time mum around a full time job.

That's not always the case though is it. Me and plenty of my friends have kids and aren't married to their partners. In fact more aren't than are. None are reliant on their partner.
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