If life is getting too overwhelming, what to do?

[Onlyrainbows]

I don't think I've felt this way in the past year or so. But between working FT, trying to stay "fit", trying to get out of debt, having a difficult 2yo, dealing with my DHs "addiction", and just dealing with a busy household of 6 (plus dog and cat), having chronic anemia, plus having my period.. I feel like I've had enough! I've already had a beer today and it made me feel better, but I know that's obviously not the answer. I'm having serious mood swings and at times feel like I can't cope. This just started around Thursday, so I'm thinking it shall pass once I stop bleeding and get my iron infusion. But any other tips for self help?

It sounds really tough for you. Worth seeing your gp? Otherwise, have you had a look at the headspace app? Free trial Some easy excercise to help you regroup.

I have therapy every other week. Last time I had a similar episode (which was about a year ago) they prescribed diazepam

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How old are you?

I have been feeling the same. Am very anaemic, awful heavy periods (awaiting an ablation but can’t have it till my iron is up) , had iron infusions 4 weeks ago and apparently levels are ‘normal’ but still feel like crap. Between working, looking after my mum who has dementia, dealing with 2 teens and other health issues life is getting too much. When is your infusion? Hopefully you will start to feel better after it. Do you also get anxiety with your anaemia? I am seriously thinking I need some anxiety/depression/ mood meds.

I think it's not all on you to learn to 'cope' with unreasonable. You don't say what your husbands addiction is but very few addictions are free so you are swimming against the tide if you are working to clear debt while your husband has the luxury of an addiction. I think you need to recognise when someone is working against you rather than pathologize normal feelings of being understandably fucked off. Maybe your reaction to the lifestyle you are having isn't the real problem.
Sorry if I have the wrong end of the stick.

@justlookingnotbuying

It sounds like you need HRT, not AD's.

Realistically we can clear the debt (if we live an extremely frugal life in about six months but I don't want that and finding that balance is hard to achieve).

His addiction can be free, but dealing with it is the least of my problems, but hearing from him how all of our other issues stem from it and hearing how he's going to be a new man is taking a toll somehow.

It was clearly my hormones as I feel 90% back to normal.

What has changed since yesterday?

I'm on day 2/3 of my period and I don't feel with such a short fuse /overwhelmed.

[quote Aquamarine1029]@justlookingnotbuying

It sounds like you need HRT, not AD's.[/quote]
100%. I’m 49 and suffering from most peri symptoms but because I still have regular periods my gp won’t accept I could be in peri and just says you’re not quite there yet as you aren’t skipping periods or having regular hot flushes. 🙄