Feeling guilty about how I behaved towards my parents

[Blabbermouth93]

Just basically what the title says I'm 27 and regretting my childhood/teenage years horribly

I had severe mental health untreated until I was 16 and was a terrible teenager running away daily because my parents where both social workers are where being to ' strict ' I honestly thinking back now I would have disowned me , but they kept going god knows why.

Point being my dad is 63 and we have had bad news about his health we still aren't sure what the prognosis is he has surgery next week.
I'm now struggling with seeing how weak he has become because he was always the one who kept our family strong , he is trying to hide that he's struggling he never shows emotions and this is breaking me .

However I don't know what to do that is good enough to apologise for everything I put him through back then and just to say I'm grateful he pulled me through it.

My mum is ill with lupus still manager of social work and her mum is dying so all her free time is looking after her mum and my dad , my dad has had to leave work so isn't getting income and she's coping with everything , it's hard watching my family crumble infront of me.

Ramble done , how can I do something to say sorry how do i show them I'm here to support them.

i think you just tell them. That you are happy and thank them for not giving up on you. x

Just speak from your heart. Tell them what you’ve said here - you love them and you’re grateful for them. That you are here to support and help them.

You tell them. It sounds simple, but it will mean the world to them.

I went through a pretty awful teenage phase. How my parents didn't kick me out, I will never know - I was vile to them. I think in my case it was undiagnosed ADHD, being unhappy at school, anxiety, wider mental health issues all coming together to create a really horrible person.

I have a great relationship with them now. We've talked a lot about my behaviour as a teenager and they know how sorry I am and how much I love them and, in turn, they apologised to me for not supporting me in the right way at the time. I think it was cathartic for all of us and I'm happy now knowing that we all know how much we love each other and we really enjoy each others' company these days.

I'm sorry to hear that your Dad is unwell and I hope the prognosis is what you're hoping for. Just tell them how you feel and that you want to support them, they're your parents, you can talk to them openly and it will mean a lot to them, I'm sure. Wishing you all the best.

If you are just as honest as you have been here I hope they will just tell you that they love you to bits. Is there anything you can do to help regarding your GM ?

They know op, they know
And you couldn't help having mh issues.

Tell them if you like but I would let your actions do the talking from now on.

I just wish I could do more help more I help look after my dad with appointments helping him out of bed I just think him being so young he would live forever.

You just wish you could give them everything lol x

Tell them.

I'm not going to go into the details of why - and I am a lot older than you, at 42 - but just tell them, now, today/tomorrow.

Don't wait, because you won't get a second chance.

Don't punish yourself. You were a child developing. Your brain isn't even fully developed until you are around 26, anyway. I would hate to think of my child punishing themselves for past behaviours / mistakes. It's all part of growing and learning.

By all means talk to your parents about it all . Take care, op.

Try to let it go and forgive yourself. You were a teenager going through hard things.
Life for a teenager is hard.

I have a teenager going through hard things. I'll breathe a sigh of relief when we're through the other side, but I won't blame him for it. It's not his fault.

Maybe read up on what's happening in a teenagers brain and up to around 25. It might give you some perspective on your own teen years and help you to think about yourself more kindly.
They're going through so many changes at the same time as having exam pressure and being told these are make our break years for their future. It's a lot.