husbands father

[QweenBea]

Doing a bit of FB tonight and came across my husband's half sisters page and it's apparent that their father has died about 3 months ago. He has never really spoken to his half sister or father but he certainly has not been told he is dead because he has never mentioned it.
Should I say something? Or just leave it? He would have been well over 80, maybe he assumed he was already dead? I just feel I have a secret now

I think you should tell him

‘Came across’ = nosied around.

Unfortunately no good ever comes of prying. I’m not being sanctimonious I’m just as guilty as you are at looking up all kinds of people on social media.

I would not say anything as you would have to explain why you were being nosey and that could lead to you being thought of as a sticky beak by your loved one.

@LaraDeSalle

‘Came across’ = nosied around.

Unfortunately no good ever comes of prying. I’m not being sanctimonious I’m just as guilty as you are at looking up all kinds of people on social media.

I would not say anything as you would have to explain why you were being nosey and that could lead to you being thought of as a sticky beak by your loved one.

Don't be ridiculous. If it's an open page, viewable to anyone then it's not prying.

Does your dh know you check out his half sister's socials?

He is an only child apart from the half sister and his mum is dead. He never talks about him. And yes I was nosing around and no he doesn't know I was doing this

I think you should tell him,very unfair not to, It's very poor he wasn't informed of his father's death.I think if you don't tell him you are not on side with your husband,in fact it makes you actually way worse than his half sibling because at least they were not in contact whereas you are his wife and that will hurt him more

Yes! Just say it looks like sad news, his Dad might have died. Hope it was peaceful and he didn't suffer.

Then Google local obits on his name and see if you can find out the main info. Like his funeral date and place and the charity chosen, which often indicates if he died with an illness, although not necessarily.

Then leave it unless he asks to do more (re half sister).

He doesn't speak to his half-sister. Never has. I think I will leave it, bridges can't be built wih his dad now, so Im just going to leave it

I don't think you can keep something this big from him though!
Just tell him
It's not as thought you were looking at someone's phone

Its not even the fact that his dad is dead,its you knowing and keeping it a secret and plus giving your husband a chance to grieve especially with no contact it may be difficult for him

@QweenBea

He doesn't speak to his half-sister. Never has. I think I will leave it, bridges can't be built wih his dad now, so Im just going to leave it

You are not going to tell your husband that his father has died

Who do you think you are

Tell him what you know and then reevaluate your relationship but the idea of not telling your actual life partner something so huge about their family is bizarre.

I disagree about telling him. If you had been informed by the half sister or somebody else of your partners death then of course you should tell him.

However you only came to know about this information because you searched for his half sister on Facebook. Perhaps just out of general curiosity as we all do with random people from time to time.

You would be none the wiser about the father passing away if you hadn’t been idly searching, so therefore I think it’s better if you keep quiet and leave it to your husband if he feels at any time he wants to look his family up and see how they are doing.

Partner’s fathers death ^^

I'd be inclined to confess that you were idling around on FB and that you'd discovered this... then show him the page.

The problem with a secret like this is that it may get blurted out or, at some point, your husband might suddenly announce that he's going to look his dad up. You'd have to bit your lip or , your expression would give it away.

Who knows? He may even already know but has chosen to keep it to himself.

You have to tell him his father is dead OP!