I’m not a sulker nor am I passive aggressive. I grew up in a happily argumentative family and normally openly get stuff out.I do try and reign this in with friends as it’s not very civilised and whatever annoyance I have will pass.
However I do have 2 specific friends ask “ are you alright?” in a slightly accusatory tone when clearly they are very clearly the ones pissing me off. I have no come back. It really really winds me up.
Example.
Today I had to give a lift to a friend to work as she had no car. She wanted to be in 20 minutes later than I like to be in but I’m fine with that once in while. She was then late anyway , apologised listing all the problems that made her late, got in and asked me to turn the heating off as it makes her ill. She talked incessantly all the way to work.Banged on at work about how early she had got in today
Obviously I had already said I’d give her a lift home but she phoned me 30 minutes before we needed to leave in a panic, to make sure I was coming to get her. We had arranged that I would drop her at her house to pick up something then straight into town for important appointment. I explained that I was “late” as I didn’t want to wait around longer than necessary, given I was giving her a lift back after the appointment and would have to hang around until then.
I got her there in plenty of time but she was flustered, again. She went in , I went for a walk, she came out after 10 mins but apparently needed to return again after another 15 mins. She said she needed stuff from the shops. I said fine I’d drop her, go home myself and come back in 15 mins. It’s school pick up, I’ve got to right turn into very busy school traffic, pedestrians stepping out all over the place. I was fed up. Which was when she said it.
So what do I say to “ are you alright”? What I’d like to say is I’m doing you a massive favour, under duress. STFU.
Help me.