How much cleaning do you do?

[Neverhappyalwaysmoaning]

When you have a cleaner?

Earlier this year I got a promotion and went back to FT work after years of PT working around the DC. It came with a decent pay rise and so me and DH decided to get a cleaner. I researched them, got a couple of recommendations locally and eventually settled on a small local company. DH did none of this except complain when I told him the hourly rate (£15). Like I say, I did my research and it is the going rate (SE).

They have been coming for a few weeks now and it is great to come home on a Friday to a lovely clean house. Before the cleaners I would do a bit each day so the whole house was never "done" at the same time IYSWIM. DH would pull his weight too - usually prompted by me though, I would ask him to spray and wipe the shower after he had used it or clean the bath if he was doing DC's bathtime. He would also wipe up spills and the kitchen surfaces after dinner etc.
I would say cleaning was split 80/20 pre cleaners but he worked longer hours than me - I would do about half an hour a day 4 days a week and then another 1hr a day on the other 3 days And DH about 1hr in total.

Now, having the cleaner is lovely but I think we still need to do something the rest of the week to keep it nice. DH disagrees and for the money he thinks he should never have to lift a finger again.

Today he has gone into his office and going for a couple of drinks afterwards. So he shaved. The state he has left the sink in is quite frankly disgusting - beard hairs everywhere - I have never seen it like that before. I assume he used to clean it up himself but because the cleaners are coming he thought f*ck it they can do it.

We had a discussion he says that he resents paying the cleaners but he also says that he hates cleaning and the last thing he wants to do when he has been working is clean. So, my conclusion is that he wants/ expects me to do it all. Do you think I am right?
I mean I hardly love cleaning either but I do like having a clean and tidy house.

I still do a quick 15-20min clean each day, wipe over sinks, surfaces, loos and put the hand held hoover round but now DH does nothing.

I think this is unfair. The cleaners are paid from joint money, we should both get the benefit and still share the in between jobs?

He sounds like an immature man child. There's still things that need doing in between the cleaners coming. If he spilt milk in the kitchen would he just leave it? Part of shaving is clearing up the mess, if I shave my legs in the bath, I rinse the bath out afterwards. It's really childish behaviour from him. And yes it sounds like he just wants you to do it all for free.

If we didn’t do anything between the cleaner then our house would be awful. I’m at sahm and the youngest is 2 so I still have to do a fair amount. Kitchen benches washed nightly after we have loaded the dishwasher (the kitchen would be awful if we didn’t), a quick rinse of sinks, robot hoover on in the kitchen dining room every night and another room once a day. So about 15 mins max a day but a a lot that is tidying after dinner. But 15-20 mins a day when your all out of the house during the week seems far too much. Your DH however is being awful and it says a lot about what he thinks of others. I don’t think £15ph is a lot and I live in the NE.

Thanks.
The issue is when I said about still doing 10 mins or so of cleaning a day he said that means the cleaners make no difference to him so we should just go back to the way it was.
It is a lot of money -£60 a week.

Not sure where I would find the time now either, I would have to spend a whole morning of the weekend cleaning and I know he wouldn't like that either.

The house isn't empty all day.
One of us is always WFH and the DC come back to the house after school with the after school nanny (sounds posh but isn't- she is a student at a local university she just collects them from school and then watches them for 1.5hrs whilst we work upstairs, she isn't expected to do other jobs).

DH expected cleaners to earn NMW. I mean, maybe if they are employed and get holiday, sick pay and pension contributions but not if they are self employed, surely?
They bring their own products and equipment which I like too.

Having a cleaner once a week is not the same as having a housekeeper… You still have to do some cleaning.

Re the cost, you say you are using a local cleaning company - so the cleaner herself is no doubt getting quite a bit less than £15.

We have a weekly cleaner too OP but my husband does still clean up after shaving, wipe down the shower once done to avoid soap scum/water marks.
Your husband is wrong, he should still do the odd things when needed and it shouldn't fall on you.
We pay £16 per hour and have 2 hours a week, one week upstairs and one week downstairs, could that be an option to reduce the cost?

He sounds like an arsehole.

DH disagrees and for the money he thinks he should never have to lift a finger again

So what does he do in the shaving scenario if he shaves the day after they come? Just leave it gathering toothpaste dribble and hairs all week? Rank. They can only do so much in the time given, on that one day, unless you get them everyday.