Anyone else feel like they can’t actually be happy!?

[Happinessl]

I sometimes wonder if I am not built to be happy.

Small example from today: dc had parents’ evening and it was GREAT. So positive for them both. But now am feeling shit that I spent so much time worrying that dc were unhappy at school - and also feeling very guilty that we’re moving house in a few months’ time and they won’t be at that school where things are going well (they’re 5 and 7).

That’s just a small example of the way my brain works. Good thing happens - I turn it into something to feel really crap about.

Anyone else like this? How on earth do I change?

Anyone?

Yes. I’m sure I read somewhere that your brain likes to return to the 'status quo'. Feel too happy and it makes you sad so that you’re not too happy ! 🤔

Plus I live with permanent mum guilt 😅

For me from my past, it was the philosophy of assume the worse or most likely if the situation went pickles, then try to plan accordingly while at the same time, hoping that the desired outcome would be achieved.

Basically it will all go into the shredder and if it does , how best to save the mission , and keep perspectives, so that I did not get over confident and make further errors or hamper the progress of the objectives needed to be achieved.

I guess, as the phrase goes, keep a level head, don't assume all objectives would be achieved, try to prevent complete failure of x mission, while at the same time if the failures happen, try to at least salvage some of it via having different strategies planned out.

Most people are like this I think.