Mixed sleepovers. Would you allow this?

[motheroreily]

Hello. My daughter is 10 she's been invited to a sleepover with a boy who's 9. Would you allow this? My own upbringing was very repossessive and so I don't know if most parents would find this OK. I want to say no but am worried I'm being too over the top.

It's be a no for me.

Do you know the family? Are they close? Does DD want to go?

We stopped mix sex sleepovers at secondary school.

Yes, but I knew the family

Depends. If they've been great friends since a very young age, then probably. But probably not if they were new friends. Boy-girl relationships can start to get a bit complicated and 'romantic' at that age and I'd be a bit nervous.

Yes i would at that age as I think it's not a sexual age yet but it depends on the context really

DS has mostly female friends. He's been to a sleepover recently where he was the only boy. He's 15. His friends have had mixed sleepovers before too. If inviting people here, I've tried to make sure that his friends know that they are also welcome to just come for the evening, in case they or their parents aren't happy about sleeping in a room with the opposite sex.

Yes, at that age, they are just kids. Assuming DD herself wants to go. I'd also only allow sleepovers with a family I knew regardless of the genders of the kids.

@rolypolydoly

It's be a no for me.

Why? The boy is 9!

I would allow it at this age but not secondary age (unless I knew the family all really well)

Nope. My children all attend same sex schools so they only mix with children of the same sex. In saying that though I'm not a fan of friends sleepovers. My DD14 is allowed stay with her friend occasionally but my 12 year old not yet.

Thank you this is really helpful. I do know the family. But I still feel a bit unsettled about it.