Really annoyed at my dad

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Just want an anonymous rant

I found out yesterday that I have covid. My dad rang me so I told him

And he went mad at me. Said hes been telling me for a year to stay inside my house ( I'm a single mum with 2 children and zero family support as they all live far away )

When I said he was being silly, I wasn't goinf to spend my time locked in my house he said I was selfish and started going on about me dying

So I got cross and said I don't know why your trying to be negative about it and frighten me when I'm here on my own. What are you hoping to gain by trying to make me scared?

he repeated that i was selfish and that i needed to isolate from my children! I said okay, so are you going to come and look after the kids for me? He said no and I said exactly so stop being ridiculous, I've been with them all week been kissing and hugging them everyday if their gonna catch it theyve already been exposed

My dad is a hermit and has OCD but he's really really annoyed me. We are nornally really close ( speak on the phone daily ) but I've not rang him today as I know I'm going to explode if he says one more negative thing to me about it

He's just been really rude and horrible and I'm absolutely furious at him

He's not willing to help with the children ( I don't ever ask for any help I just mean he said to isolate away from them but isn't prepared to come and take them and I knew he'd say no that's why i said it ) so what exactly is it he hoped to gain

I can't speak to him until I've calmed down because I'm on the verge of falling out with him over this

You have to accept that he is scared of Covid, and he’s probably concerned about what will happen if you’re too ill to look after the kids, if you die. It might sound dramatic , but thats where their mind goes, to the worst possible scenario.
I’ve found with my dad that the less I tell him the better.

Take a deep breath and calm down. Clearly, your father is very mentally unwell. You really need to put his outburst into perspective. This is his mental illness talking, not the thoughts of a stable person. You don't have to tolerate his abuse, but you should have some understanding about where all this hysteria is really coming from. Take a break from speaking to him and reconnect when you're up to it.

Unfortunately covid has left a huge mental health and anxiety situation on many, many people. Even those tho may not preciously have had these issues.

You've got to just accept people have differing opinions on the whole thing and move on. If he's always been like this though, he's unlikely to change. Just go low contact for a while and hope it blows over.