Argument w/OH and unsure if IATA

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So I was getting dressed and he was lying in bed and said show me your bum, now so not to drip feed he randomly gropes boob or my bum from time to time and I have said before that at times it can be annoying. When he said that this morning I had said no as dd2yo was on the bed watching TV and he has said something in return which I can't remember but I had then said I think your abit weird. He took that to mean I was calling him a pedo? I wasn't of course I just meant that I think it's weird that he is always asking things like that. I tried explaining this to him but it started a big argument that's still going as he asked me to apologise and I said no.

I wasn't suggesting he was a pedo I just think I'm entitled to get dressed without being asked to flash etc.

I think weird is the wrong word and you should apologise for that (unless he is in fact very weird in general). But I wouldn't apologise for saying no. Your body, your rules. He should respect that.

No, you were not the unreasonable one OP! You should be able to say no without him h getting in a mood with you and he shouldn't keep on grabbing you when you've told him you don't like it.

I think it is weird and gross to say that in front of your 2yr old anyway.

See that's what I meant about my body but he somehow turned it round to make it that I was suggesting something.

Don’t apologise for saying he’s weird

He is.

He is weird for wanting you to flash him especially in front of a two year old I mean urgh get your kicks somewhere children arnt that's just grim and ffs stop being such a perve

Had another argument there as once again I've tried to explain my side, I said again about groping etc he said we're in a relationship, I said but that doesn't give you the right to just grope when you want, he said that's fine we'll just not have sex again, he'll go out and find some one else etc.

Always on the defensive and the extremes.
But I'm the one enjoying playing the victim.

He sounds like an absolute prick.

Does he have any good points?

We do have good times but this is an issue that crops up as I'm not as sexually driven as him and even when we are in bed I'm not adventurous unless I've had a few drinks, basically I'm more of a prude. I'm trying to be more assertive of myself and that's why I haven't apologised as he needs to know where the line is.

I've gave back my engagement ring as he couldn't be with a cunt like me. I'm in the wrong for pointing out his inappropriate behaviour.

He's manipulative.
He doesn't like you having boundaries and uses DARVO on you (Deny he did anything, Reverse it so he is the Victim and you are the Offender).

Your body doesn't belong to him as a sex toy just because you are in a relationship with him.

Don't apologise to him - your child was next to him !
Ewww 🙈
Being married does not mean you can't have any boundary you want for your body.
He is manipulative and immature. His attitude stinks

I won't be apologising. Thanks for the responses I was just questioning if I was wrong or not