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I'm crashing emotionally. Help me pull out of the rut please!

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EvenLess07 · 06/03/2022 10:17

It has been... A WEEK.

DF is terminally ill (not expected to be here by the end of the year) and reacted badly to his first session of palliative chemo a few weeks ago. He's currently in hospital with sepsis. He's only in hospital because we forced him to go- if we'd left him alone, like he wanted us to, he'd have been dead by the next morning I think. None of us had any idea how ill he actually was as he was hiding a lot of his symptoms from us.

His condition has been back and forth all week. I have slept in the spare room all week, dreading but waiting for a middle of the night phone call that has thankfully not come. He seems to be doing slightly better.

I'm currently waiting to see if I will get a settlement from an organisation that allowed me to be abused when I was a child. I have been working on this case for nearly 2 years. I should find out the results of this in the next couple of weeks.

I am living with an eating disorder, related to the above. It has escalated this week to the point where I am binging every day. The amount of food I'm eating is making me feel ill and I don't want to do it, but can't stop doing it in secret. I can't seem to talk to anyone about it.

My DH is wonderful. He's made sure I've had downtime from my toddler, who I love more than life itself but who I have given very little of myself to lately Sad. I'm currently sitting on the sofa and I literally don't know how to stand up and get on with all the jobs I've neglected this week.

I know I need to get help for my binge eating. But I don't know how to do that either. I'm worried I'll get laughed out of the doctor's surgery or told to go on Slimming World, when it's really not that simple.

Any words of encouragement would be so helpful. I've been powering through for so long it feels like I've just stopped and can't get going again.

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EvenLess07 · 06/03/2022 10:21

It feels very self indulgent to be complaining about this with all the terrible hardship going on in the world Sad, not just in Ukraine but in the many conflicts pushed down the political agenda in this country.

In many ways I am incredibly fortunate and have a lovely life- I'd never say this to anyone else in my shoes but I wish I could just buck up!

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EvenLess07 · 06/03/2022 20:53

Unashamedly bumping. Spent the afternoon playing with my beautiful DD and felt better for a while. I want to be better for her, even if and when the worst does happen with DF Sad

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UpcycledToenail · 06/03/2022 21:08

I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I think anyone would feel overwhelmed by all that you're coping with. Would you like to tell us more about your lovely family?

GreenClock · 06/03/2022 21:27

On a practical note, it may be an idea to use some of your settlement money to pay for counselling OP. Binge eating can be overcome but as you say, Slimming World is not the answer.

EvenLess07 · 06/03/2022 21:57

Thank you. My DF hasn't been a perfect parent but he is one of the kindest men I've ever known. He used to love holidays in the sun, and learning new things, and listening to old Cream and Fleetwood Mac records while drinking a beer (or 5). A lot of that seems to be gone now. I feel like I'm losing him by degrees already Sad

Settlement money will definitely be going towards some more therapy. It's desperately needed. I'm barely functioning under the surface now.

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