How do I propose to dp?

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Too much backstory to go into but the important facts are these:

I love dp so much. We've not been together a super long time but I can tell that I've found my person. He's honestly my soulmate 🥰

He's open to the idea of marriage but he's also very stoic, shy and not particularly proactive whereas I am outgoing, impulsive and impatient so we balance each other out really well 😂

I want to ask him to marry me. At some point (not quite sure when) in the near future. I don't want to do the typical MN thing of 'just having a discussion about getting married' as that just feels so clinical and unromantic, I want it to be obvious that I'm asking him to marry me but not over the top as he hates being the centre of attention.

I'm totally stumped for ideas! 😬 What I would love (in a proposal) he would hate, he's the kind of guy that would prefer to have an elopement with just the 2 of us to avoid all the expense, fuss and attention.

Does anyone have any low key but still lovely and romantic proposal ideas for a man? TIA 😁😁

Get some magnetic letters and spell it out on the fridge?

"Will you marry me"
🤷‍♀️

@YouHaveNoAuthorityHereJackie we actually have some already! 😆

Buy tickets to Gretna Green?

Keep it casual not to overwhelm him, sideways conversation as when talking to teen boys.

Put him in the car, drive somewhere a bit far and just say “x and y are getting married, do you think that is something we shall consider/work for us?” And take it from there.

I know it doesn’t sound very romantic and that he doesn’t want to be the centre of attention but I am sure you both would welcome an easy exit out of it turns out he doesn’t feels like you just yet.

Nothing clinical or unromantic about discussing marrying the person you adore with the person you adore and want to marry.

“I love you, let’s get married” is very romantic if you’re right for each other and want the same things. Choose a place or a date that means something to you both. It’s the getting married bit that’s romantic and exciting.

How long have you been together?

@AnneLovesGilbert that's very true. I do absolutely adore him and I think he feels the same way, I honestly want nothing else but to love him for the rest of my life. We both (and his sister) said when we first met that we had a good feeling about us. It's weird to say but since I met him everything is just working out well and I'm a better person for being with him 😂😂

I've been married before and engaged to someone a few years ago and both times I had this idea of what my wedding would look like, what I'd wear, where it would be etc. I really hated the idea of doing it in a registry office in jeans etc because I wanted it to be a special occasion. Now I've met Dp I realise that being married to him would be the special occasion. I honestly wouldn't care if we did the cheapest possible no frills ceremony because all I want is for him to be my husband. I don't care about anything else 'wedding related'.

@Twolostsoulsswimminginafishbow been together almost a year. I'm thinking of asking him on our anniversary. I know it seems quite soon but when you know, you know!

The way you speak about him and your relationship is lovely

My ex proposed, it was well planned and executed, he said the right things, he’d put a lot of time and effort into it. The marriage was over in a couple of years and it was a nightmare for the last year.

I’m married again, second time for him too. We were planning marriage, house, baby, hadn’t decided the order exactly. We’d seen a mortgage guy and were picking up a curry and while we were waiting he said “can we get married then?” and I said “sure!” It wasn’t a proposal and we’d spoken about it already, he had children and we wanted to get things right, but that night we went home all happy and excited, decided where and when (couple of months later when my sister was over from abroad) and just got it all sorted. It was so special, genuine, in keeping with how we are, no fuss or frills but fun and lovely. I couldn’t have loved him more or been more excited if he or I had got down on one knee or done it over an expensive meal or anything else. We approached marriage as we have everything else, as a team of equals and side by side. It’s going very well and he’s the love of my fucking life. That’s romance

Maybe book a restaurant with a secluded room? After having booked it say you want to treat him to a lovely meal and then propose.