Please help anger

[purpleme12]

My child is 8
I truly believe that she can't help her anger now (ie she's not misbehaving)
She gets angry at anything and everything now
And can't control it
I know all the usual suggestions ie calm place, breathing, counting, etc but she doesn't seem to be able to put these in action
Today she has said why am I the only one who's angry
And I'm starting to get concerned she'll not like herself because of the anger
Her dad has ADHD (diagnosed as an adult although he has had lots of mental health problems throughout his life)
I am not with him
I am starting to get more concerned she may have inherited it
What do I do to help her??
Should I speak to school??
Or surestart?? I know they can help with things even when they're older but I've never had to use them

Could she have ADHD/add? I know these things run in genetics
She's very good behaviour wise at school. Can someone who is good at school still have this?

Also agree with @ClaudiusTheGod, that's a great book for practical strategies to help you to help her, whatever the reason for her struggles with this.

@MissMaple82

OO contact your local Surestart or Homestart and explain you want a referral for a support worker. I have gone through a similar experience. I was assigned a family support worker who was a massive help amd visited us weekly.

What did the support worker do? What kind of help did you get?

Thank you for all the posts

I'll see if the library has this book

It doesn't have to ADD necessarily, my son is somewhat similar and he's being assessed for ASD (last steps) so you do need to have a good read to see what might be going on.

I guess another reason I'm thinking about adhd/add right now is because I know it presents differently in girls, I know girls have more difficulty being diagnosed and I know that if a child does have ADHD/add and it's not found out then it can lead to more misunderstandings by medical professionals about what it actually is and can be misdiagnosed and lead to other mental health problems. While I'm not saying it is ADHD or ADD at all I can't help thinking of all these things

Obviously it will be different support for different families dependant on their issues and needs. But she visited weekly and did sessions with both me, and my children separately and also sessions together. I found it to be like therepy. She helped come up with coping strategies for both of us, we also had TAF meetings with the school. It helped my child to communicate better, having a new person explain anger techniques helped them. It also helped my child understand the impact it had on me. They can also support in getting a referral to CAMHS if necessary, they have alot of input in things, they are like social workers. I found it a great source of support for both me and my child. But also see a Dr. Maybe it could be down to early puberty or something? I'd explore every avenue, but there is help out there.

Oh ok that's helpful thank you

Like another poster said, alot of the time anger is down to issues around communication and an inability to express or understand their feelings. But equally it could be a genetic thing, possibly both. I definitely recommend reaching out to Surestart or Homestart and your GP