TTC 6 months implantation?

[Jadelovely]

hi, i am getting really frustrated now with this whole TTC malarkey. It really is getting me down every single month. i came off the pill in August 2021. I’m 24 years old and my boyfriend is 28. my periods were a little messy for the first three months and then from November onwards they am have been 30-31 day cycles every month. THis month i’m due on the 11th of March AF, however yesterday i started with some pink spotting that turned to brown and then back to pink and now is a little red, only mainly when i wipe or a tiny bit in a pantie liner! i never bleed before AF maybe a day before but never 9 days (it started yesterday) I’m really getting fed up now of it all! i’m just looking for anyone who experienced this too who doesn’t normally. Or just some advice from people going through this, how to deal every month with the heartbreak! i’m actually crying as soon as i see a period now, it’s so emotionally stressful and i’m not a person who can just try and forget about it!

I’m sorry it’s all taking it’s toll on you. I was trying to conceive for nearly 2 years before I fell pregnant.
Sadly it can just take time- do you track your ovulation?
I used to track my ovulation, used different apps and kits. My husband told me how I was sucking the fun from it all and was making myself stressed with it.
I spoke to the gp who said statistically most people fall pregnant after the 1 year mark and to not give up hope. She told me the annoying remark of to relax and to try give up with the ovulating tracking and go with noticing how different my body feels during the cycle.
I stopped trying so hard and had exactly the same as you but it didn’t amount to anything sadly.
So I decided to focus on myself, boasted myself into a healthier lifestyle, noticed when k was feeling hotter in the month which was when I was ovulating. My husband and I were trying every few days but we were focussing on making it all fun and lighthearted- not a chore to get pregnant. Within a month I was pregnant and I genuinely believe for me it was down to unwinding and taking the stress out of it all.
I know it’s easier to say than do- after trying for 2 years I couldn’t believe my luck.
Once you get close to the one year mark speak to your gp and see what they recommend.
You can also pay for private tests but in reality 6 months isn’t that long to be trying so don’t give up hope!
(Sorry for my long winded answer 😂)

thankyou i really appreciate your reply, i think i’m just struggling because i feel so alone in this, I know i have my boyfriend but i don’t think he understands it like us woman do. All he says is “it will happen don’t give up hope” I feel so bad complaining because like you say, 6 months isn’t so long compared to two years especially, i’m just the type of person who gets down really easily when i want something and then it’s not happening. I think what makes it more annoying is one of my sisters was pregnant after literally the first time doing the deed, and my other sister has had a baby and is on baby number 2 and she fell pregnant the month after having the implant out so i assumed it wouldn’t take me so long, and i only have apps to track my ovulation so i don’t actually track it properly with ovulation tests or anything, i tried not to obsess to much and i know i would do with those, thankyou so much i think i just need people to talk to who have gone through this, congratulations to you by the way!

You’re so right, it’s such a hard time when trying to conceive and you do need people to talk to. It must be upsetting watching your sisters go through it easily and I’m sorry it’s not happened the same way as you. I’d say give it a couple more months and then speak to your gp. Get your bloods checked and just make sure everything is okay with you and your boyfriend.
Open up to friends about it, they might not be in the same place as you but it definitely helps to share how you’re feeling and can help lift some of the stress.
One thing I noticed was when I ovulated I felt so much hotter during the night, my temperature was raised. I would also say I was more in the mood so it kinda felt more natural in a way.
Best of luck to you! I really hope it all works out well for you. Remember you’re not alone going through this and have plenty of people to speak to!

thankyou so much! i am going to start doing that. It’s interesting you say this because i’m such a cold person who’s always cold but do have one or two days in the month when i’m just feeling so hot so i can easily notice that, i have noticed feeling more in the mood aswell around when the app predicts my ovulation. i am definitely going to pay more attention to the feeling hot because i didn’t actually know this as stupid as it may sound

update- 6 days late! still getting BFNs a big fuck you to the TTC journey! it’s a hard one 😤

did have covid in february and was really poorly during my “fertile week” just going from the app, so think it’s delayed my ovulation and period. Sorry just wanted to get it off my chest