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Should I stay in my current job with LOVELY manager or move?

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dottypencilcase · 03/03/2022 14:27

Exactly that.

Started a new job a fortnight ago:
-It's an hours commute one way
-Really disjointed team- people still wfh (not something I'm keen on)
-In an unsafe area- I feel scared being out and about (area is known for gun and knife crime)
-Absolutely lovely manager- bends over backwards to accommodate me (I know him from elsewhere and he's always been encouraging and supportive of my interests)
-Lots of scope for development- manager has said he'll support me

BUT

I've been invited for interview for a new job that I'd applied for before my current job was advertised (interviews rescheduled due to covid)
-Have worked for the organisation before so know the job inside-out
-Have had a big run-in with the manger there due to miscommunication. Had to report her to her manager- luckily I had emails which clearly showed manager was in the wrong
-Job offering £1824 more per year
-Employees back in the office which I like
-Much safer area- don't feel scared walking to the office
-20 mins door to door

What do I do? I have twin toddlers so want to be closer to home just in case I'm needed for emergency pick-ups, etc. but current manager has gone out of his way to fit me into the organisation and I feel so welcomed by everyone. Potential new manager has a lot of issues but I can stand my ground and hopefully she won't try to throw me under the bus again!

Should I stick where I am or go for the interview and see how things pan out? Please help me see sense!

Ps. Posted same thread elsewhere a few weeks ago and only got one reply. Post in chat for traffic.

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Hedgecog · 03/03/2022 14:29

Personally I'd stay put a bit longer, remember why you left your other place.

Violetmo0n · 03/03/2022 14:31

Working with the manager again would put me off.
But also not feeling safe and commute puts me off job 1.
How often are you in the office?

moonbedazzled · 03/03/2022 14:35

Practically job 2 is the no brainer so it comes down to a battle between the managers really. Don't stay in job 1 because the manager is good. It's early days and she could end up being useless. She could even have her own plans to leave.
For me it would come down to manager 2 and if I'd want to be in that dynamic. Can you really handle the stress that manager 2 would bring? They can make life awkward in so many little ways. However, if that's not a problem, I'd take job 2....in a heartbeat.

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dottypencilcase · 03/03/2022 14:41

@moonbedazzled

Practically job 2 is the no brainer so it comes down to a battle between the managers really. Don't stay in job 1 because the manager is good. It's early days and she could end up being useless. She could even have her own plans to leave. For me it would come down to manager 2 and if I'd want to be in that dynamic. Can you really handle the stress that manager 2 would bring? They can make life awkward in so many little ways. However, if that's not a problem, I'd take job 2....in a heartbeat.

I pushed back heavily when manager tried to blame me for something that was an oversize on her part- wrote an email and got everyone and their mum involved with cross-referenced emails, dates, times, etc. she wasn't expected that and was as good as gold to me afterwards. I got told she was stressed which is why she took her frustration out in me. New manager is lovely but new to the role himself. I get the impression he'll leave soon as he is under so much stress himself. But he's shielded me from so much in the short space of time I've worked alongside him and has put so many opportunities my way.

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Shiiiiiiiiiiitttt · 03/03/2022 14:42

Stay. If they haven’t got rid of useless manger they probably never will. Can you not WFH at all?

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dottypencilcase · 03/03/2022 14:43

@Violetmo0n

Working with the manager again would put me off. But also not feeling safe and commute puts me off job 1. How often are you in the office?

Hardly ever. Once a month but that's because they're still advocating WFH/hybrid working. Job 2 expect you to be in the office which I prefer and which will allow me to get so much done. I struggle to work from home. I can't spend hours staring at a screen and not getting anything done. I've shared this with manager 1 and he's told me things will improve over time and not to stress too much.

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dottypencilcase · 03/03/2022 14:44

@Shiiiiiiiiiiitttt

Stay. If they haven’t got rid of useless manger they probably never will. Can you not WFH at all?

It's WFH atm which I'm struggling with. There's no structure or routine. I prefer deadlines and accountability (job 2).

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Dinoteeth · 03/03/2022 14:46

Stay you know the manager you have but I'd request to WFH a couple of days to make the commute easier

Dinoteeth · 03/03/2022 14:47

You'll really burn your bridges with your current boss. Depending on the industry word can get around.

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dottypencilcase · 03/03/2022 14:48

@Dinoteeth

Stay you know the manager you have but I'd request to WFH a couple of days to make the commute easier

I want to go into work! I hardly know my colleagues because I've only seen them on zoom meetings so far. I'm craving talking to adults during the day.

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moonbedazzled · 03/03/2022 14:48

So, job 2 pays more, is closer, has a better work environment in a nicer area with lovely colleagues. And you feel that the manager is no longer an issue. Just outline to me why you'd stay with job 1 other than the manager's nice but he's probably going to move.

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dottypencilcase · 03/03/2022 14:49

@Dinoteeth

You'll really burn your bridges with your current boss. Depending on the industry word can get around.

That does worry me. They're struggling to fill jobs atm and he bent over backwards to get me in. Manager is lovely but I wonder how he'd react if I said the job wasn't for me. Probably freeze me out.

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balalake · 03/03/2022 15:39

Go for the interview, but from what you describe I'd move job. Being nearer to home is a reasonable thing to do.

Ormally · 03/03/2022 16:05

This is interesting...it sounds very like a place I was working in 2021 (although probably not the same one). I definitely felt on edge around the outside of the location, and once inside it felt subtly difficult to go out or very far (not many interior places to sit and chat or eat unless 'official' ones, which were just on one floor - kitchen areas deliberately minimal etc, and no outside space. Some fresh air makes such a difference to me).

The commute - 20 mins with growing children - and the slightly better money would be persuasive for me - I'd go to the interview. If you got it, you'd be able to see how you feel.

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dottypencilcase · 03/03/2022 22:56

@moonbedazzled

I feel a huge sense of loyalty to the current manager and the senior team. They've been incredibly supportive of my family circumstances and have asked me to take things in my stride. They've put me forward for new opportunities, etc. and only a few weeks in.

The manager is new to the role and is still finding his place amongst the team. He's not having an easy time of it sadly. That's what makes me think the manager might leave.

The old place is quite stagnant in its approach- quite a highly strung place but I have this inherent need to be close to home and my Children’s schools! Is that lame? There's the feeling of safety too, of course. I just don't feel safe in the new place. The area is always in the news.

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dottypencilcase · 03/03/2022 22:56

I may be terrible in the interview so might not even have to make the decision but I'm feeling quite torn atm hence posting.

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HundredMilesAnHour · 03/03/2022 23:17

Job 2 sounds miserable, regardless of the commute or nice office. I'd stick with Job 1 while you start looking for Job 3.

Shiiiiiiiiiiitttt · 05/03/2022 07:58

You left job 2 workplace for a reason. It’s rarely good to go back esp when you left because of manager issues.

BocolateChiscuits · 05/03/2022 08:13

What happens if you think longer-term? Say in 5 years time would the opportunities you get from Job 1 mean you'll be in a better position than with Job 2?

burnthur5t · 05/03/2022 08:20

Over time that commute will get to you. I started a new job six months ago and it's one road for 25 minutes. I wouldn't want double that after a days work

MrsLargeEmbodied · 05/03/2022 08:33

i would feel loyal to the job you have just got, perhaps after a year you could look again

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