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Does anyone do Lent, for religious reasons or otherwise?

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Somatronic · 02/03/2022 11:27

I was raised Catholic but have no interest in the church, and have been an atheist since I was around 15.

However I have always liked the concept of Lent and try to do it every year (I've never managed to stick to it fully but I don't worry about it too much). I like the discipline of it and setting a challenge for myself.

Is anyone giving anything up for 40 days (I just counted and it's actually 44 days which seems unfair). Or maybe taking something up for Lent?

I'm quitting chocolate/sweets and alcohol. I'll take a day off for my birthday Wink

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Bloatstoat · 02/03/2022 12:44

Another Catholic - I'm giving up sweets/chocolate and will donate the money saved, I'm also going to set aside some time for Bible reading/reflection each day and do more regular Bible reading with my older two. I really should try to give up phone time but I'm not brave enough! Maybe next year ...

romdowa · 02/03/2022 12:49

I'm a non practising Catholic but this year for lent I'm giving up swearing. I've a terrible mouth and I don't want my son picking up on it. I gave up biting my nails for lent years ago and it completely broke the habit. So I'm hoping it works this time too

Bloodybridget · 02/03/2022 20:24

I should really try to stop swearing - hey, there's an idea, I could have a swear box with proceeds to charity. Can't remember if I've sworn already today. In my head, definitely, does that count?

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LaBrujaPiruja · 02/03/2022 20:30

I only do the “no meat”. Maybe I’m not a good catholic! But this is what my parents do and they are on the super devout side.

TooEarlyForBreakfast · 03/03/2022 16:45

I agree with giving up swearing, except maybe for stubbed toes.

I want to live more mindfully, be nicer to be with. Create a calmer, more nurturing environment at home.

It's good to have a specific time of year to do this, rather than muddling along on my own. I'm no longer a church-goer, and greatly miss the rhythm of the year.

LaurieFairyCake · 05/03/2022 20:08

I said I'd post my sermon when I finished :) Hope you don't find it too boring ....

This gospel passage of Jesus in the wilderness comes immediately after Jesus’ baptism and the voice from heaven declaring that Jesus is God’s Son. Jesus is led from that declaration of love into the wilderness where he is confronted with real questions and temptations about using power to gain instant results.
The three temptations with which Jesus is confronted in the wilderness represent temptations to use his heavenly power during his time on Earth. He is tempted to do miracles to give himself something to eat, to use his authority to raise himself up for personal glory. But he resists these temptations. Instead, Jesus lives as a human. Not as God-on-Earth, using his power to rule over others, but fully human, living under the authority of the Holy Spirit, doing his Father’s will and allowing the Spirit to work through him. “Not my will but yours be done” is not just his prayer, it is his whole way of life.
But the three temptations also represent the way he could have claimed Earthly power. Jesus challenges the assumptions of his time through the humility of his life. Rather than being born in a palace, as the magi expect, Jesus is born alongside the animals, outside of the inn. He rides into Jerusalem, not on a white horse as the priests predicted, leading a grand army as the people hoped, but a homeless man on a donkey. So he subverts the assumptions of the time about Earthly power. Yet, as a man and as a Jew, Jesus does have some privilege within his society. And the temptations are for him to use that privilege to live by the values of his society. He is tempted to alleviate his hunger, his poverty, through a miracle to turn a stone into bread. He could have given himself the material wealth, that would have brought not only comfort but also respect, also an audience for people to wonder at him and listen to his message. But no, Jesus does miracles only to illustrate the forgiving power of God, never for his own material gain. He is tempted to force the angels to act as his servants, to care for his needs. In a society of masters and servants, he is tempted to put himself in the master’s position. And he could have given himself a social position, to again gain Earthly respect and an audience to his message. But no. Jesus becomes an itinerant preacher, a social outcast, and in doing so he reaches others who had been outcast from society, and challenges the discriminatory values of his time. Jesus is tempted to rule every kingdom on Earth, to have everyone bow down before him. To gain status by having dominion over others; to build himself up by pushing others down. But no. Jesus calls out the priests for their hypocrisy, but he doesn’t glorify himself by putting them down, make himself feel better by making them feel bad. Even as a child he was the most knowledgeable speaker in the temple, but he doesn’t pursue Earthly priestly office. Jesus is not governed by the values of his world. He is in the world, but not of the world. He is the servant-Messiah, who meets people where they are, loves them, meets their needs, and challenges them to repent of their sins and come to know God. That is the kind of Messiah he is.
It is the Messiah he becomes in the wilderness. Jesus uses Scripture as a reminder of God’s bigger story and a guide as to how to respond.
In our readings today, we remember the promise we have in God. Psalm 91 speaks to the refuge we have in God, that if we put our trust in him he is our sanctuary and place and safety. It is to God we can turn in times of trouble. In Romans 10 we learn that if we confess that Jesus is Lord in our hearts then we will find salvation. That distinctions between us will not divide us, because God has enough riches for all. As we sung in our hymn earlier, Jesus is the love, the strength and the bliss in our hearts, giving us a loving embrace and leading us to peace and contentment.
Lent is often depicted as giving up things; this week’s readings offer a different perspective. It is not about saying ‘No’ to things but about saying ‘Yes’ to God. Jesus didn’t just say ‘No’ to the devil. He also said ‘Yes’ to who God was calling him to be, and saying ‘Yes’ to God is the true path to glory, the true way to find peace and contentment, the true journey towards safety and sanctuary, not pursuing the ways of the world and seeking material wealth, social status and power over others, and hoping those things will protect us in difficult times. That is a house built upon sand. Out there in the wilderness, Jesus built his life upon a rock –God’s steadfast faithfulness. Jesus’ identity lies not in miracles, power or celebrity but in service – an open hand not a grasping fist. By following his example, we too can say ‘Yes’ to God, ‘Yes’ to knowing his Holy Spirit in our lives, ‘Yes’ to the calling to serve others –because as well as a calling to serve, it is also a calling to true Glory alongside God.
The season of Lent is often marked by giving up something as a means of recalling the fast that Jesus undertook whilst in the desert. But Lent itself isn’t actually about fasting… it’s about another ‘F’ word – formation.
Jesus’ time in the desert, much like the Israelite’s 40 years in the wilderness that he is recapitulating, is about becoming the kind of person God needs him to be. When God called Israel to be the covenant partner, they had to go through a season of learning what that looked like. They had to learn how to trust in God’s goodness, provision, protection, and ways of operating. Their season of formation was a bumpy one – filled with complaint, defiance, insurrection, and other failures. Seriously, read the Book of Numbers, it is a catalogue of errors! Jesus’ time in the wilderness is somewhat less chaotic, but nonetheless significant. He too had to learn to trust in God’s goodness, provision, protection and ways of operating. But where Israel failed, Jesus succeeded.
Israel grumbled about their hunger and thirst and found different ways of trying to grasp at what they wanted on their own terms. Jesus trusted in the provision of the Lord – and accepted hunger as an uncomfortable but endurable facet of his faithfulness.
Despite all God had done for them through the Exodus, Israel kept demanding more ‘signs’ – wanting further proof of God’s existence and goodness. Furthermore, they interpreted the mere hint of danger or suffering as a failure of God and their response was generally to complain rather than take refuge in their proven Saviour. Jesus, however, refused to rely on or demand such signs, and accepted that suffering didn’t mean God was absent or failing but was with him through his trouble.
Israel consistently made alliances with nations and gods other than Yahweh, as a means of protecting themselves or expanding their kingdom. Jesus refuses to ally himself with Satan. Instead, he accepts an alternative form of Kingdom and the alternative mode of faithful ‘suffering servant’ as his approach to building it.
During his time in the wilderness, Jesus experienced the same testing scenarios that Israel had before him, but he remained faithful to Yahweh. Not only that, but he practiced the sort of faith that would be necessary for him to endure the cross: he saw this his discomfort could lead to reliance not doubt, to perseverance not grumbling, to victory not failure. Because of this, he became the Messiah God had been looking for in Israel all along.
In Lent, we have the opportunity to embrace our own formation… to reflect on who God is calling us as individuals as a church to be, to practice choosing God’s way of our own desires, to embrace faithfulness over our own fears, and to become the covenant partners God is looking for.

So we take things up to be closer to God, not give things up. We take up fasting or we do the Lent course with our congregation and spend time in fellowship. We take up supporting Ukraine, supporting the Red Cross and the refugees.
Dry January is supposedly about a time of renewal in the New Year. But January is also a dark and difficult month, a time when we need to be kind to ourselves, not put extra pressure on ourselves. I’m not advocating drinking, certainly not from a Methodist pulpit. But if there’s a time to let yourself go out for a good time with your friends, to get that social support, even if it isn’t the best thing for your waistline or your liver, then January or February is that time. When we have long summer days, and we feel good, that’s a better time of year to set yourself physical goals for better diet and exercise, not in the dark days of winter when it is harder to do, we’re more likely to fail and then just feel bad about ourselves.
So this Lent, let’s think about what we can add to our lives. New ways we can say ‘Yes’ to God. New things to take up, not give up. New ways to deepen our relationship with God.
Jesus in the wilderness was preparing himself for a journey that would lead to the cross. So he was preparing himself for death. But he was also preparing himself for life, for the mission and journey with God that would define his life. So our final thought of the day to leave you with is what can we do to prepare ourselves for life with Jesus this Lenten season.
However you choose to mark this season, may it be one of remembering, knowing, leaning into the goodness of God; may your faith be enhanced, your hope become secured, and your loving become more Christ-like.

Amen

LaurieFairyCake · 05/03/2022 20:09

And the bible passages for the lectionary tomorrow that I've based my sermon are
• Reading: Romans 10 v 8-13
• Reading: Luke 4 v1-13

LaurieFairyCake · 05/03/2022 20:12

don't tell me about typos - I've realised I wrote 'recapitulating' instead of 'recapturing' - corrected :))

Sanada · 05/03/2022 20:23

Yes, I'm Catholic and normally do the traditional fast and abstinence:

  • No meat/meat soups except on Sundays
  • 1 main meal and 2 light snacks every day except Sundays. However this year, I am heavily pregnant and battling anaemia so I'm skipping the fast but have decided to give up tea/coffee and have decided to focus more on my faith in exchange.
PC20 · 05/03/2022 20:30

Thank you @LaurieFairyCake that was really thought provoking. I have tried to give things up for Lent but find 'taking something up' more positive (& less of the grump about no chocolate!)
I am trying to take up an early morning walk round our village - & using the time to pray for the folk in the houses as I pass. I'm also not beating myself up if I miss a day - we all need forgiveness!

MerryPoppings · 05/03/2022 20:31

@LaurieFairyCake thank you for sharing. A great message.

I have had an awful year with cancer, work issues, bereavement, family problems etc. I feel that this year God is calling me to enjoy his love and provision for me, rather than to deny myself. There are seasons for all things and, for me, this is a season where I need more than anything else to understand how much God loves me and to accept that love rather than try to earn it.

Couchpotato3 · 05/03/2022 20:40

I'm trying to do something positive. Actually doing the exercises my physio has suggested every day. So far, I've managed it every day and I'm feeling the benefit. I've a long way to go before I'm back to normal, but I'm telling myself I might make it by Easter..Grin

LaurieFairyCake · 05/03/2022 20:41

Oh how lovely you both read it

Thanks BlushGrin and good luck taking things up and nurturing yourselves

Taswama · 05/03/2022 20:48

Despite being a lapsed Catholic I hadn't really even noticed it was Lent, until today someone mentioned something about it and I saw a Cycling UK campaign suggesting people give up short car journeys (68% of car journeys are under 5 miles).

Bloatstoat · 06/03/2022 09:41

Thank you @LaurieFairyCake, I've not been able to make it to church today as not well, so it was lovely to have this to read.

longtompot · 06/03/2022 10:33

I'm not religious but I use Lent as a challenge to give something up. This year it's chocolate, crisps, cake and biscuits. I've had far too much of all these things since Christmas. I'm also doing the MacMillan plank challenge this month so hopefully that will help start fighting the wobble as well.

LaurieFairyCake · 06/03/2022 12:19

Well everyone seemed to like my sermon this morning and we ended on the Charles Wesley hymn 'love divine, all loved excelling' which had a few weeping

And obviously all our prayers were for Ukraine and justice

My next service is Mothering Sunday - I of will be preaching on god as mother (I think)

Camomila · 06/03/2022 12:54

We're Catholic and usually give something up for lent. It's DS1s (5) first year wanting to join in and he has given up "chocolate bars and chocolate coins but not nutella" Grin

gogohm · 06/03/2022 13:02

Sort of, I'm using it to help with my diet, no cake or biscuits

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