Cannot extend my non molestation order and I'm afraid

[Laladell]

Hiya just looking for some advice really as I'm panicking today.

My ex is currently under investigation for a series of severe assults on myself (Section 18 with intent).

The case has been sent CPS and they have replied with a list of actions that are currently being sorted by the police.

He was issued with a non mol order last year which made me feel safe, but this is ending in 20 days.

Police told me to contact the solicitors who put it in place to get it extended as the case is still ongoing and they've informed me that they will not extend it unless I pay (not a chance will I be able to afford it) as he's not breached it and unless he then does anything once its ended or whilst its in place, they won't put another one in place 😢

This person absolutely ruined my life he's violent, evil and manipulative, he's my ex, he knows my life inside out he knows where I live, he knows what I do, I truly believe the none mol was the only thing stopping him or his family due to the threat of prison and i don't understand why I need to be put in a position of danger once it's ended for them to grant another one 😭 he's bailed pending investigations with no restrictions.

I rang 101 and im awaiting a call from the police in the next 48 hours but was just wondering has anyone else been in this situation before? I'm scared.

do you have a contact in victim support or an IDVA?

Both of them will have experience in applying to extend the non mol and may be able to help you.

Have the police got a marker on your property?

National Centre For Domestic violence helps with emergency injunctions and might be able to help/point you in the right direction

And sorry you're going through such a terrible tile..

You need to apply now before it expires, otherwise you will have to reapply for a new one which is less likely to be successful if there's not been any further allegations or abuse.
I would suggest filling out the form and getting it lodged asap, with a support worker if you have one. Make sure you ask for special measures at court (if not a remote hearing) as he will be served and you won't want to come into contact with him.

The form is here
www.gov.uk/injunction-domestic-violence/extend-an-existing-injunction

@SafeguardingSocialWorker

do you have a contact in victim support or an IDVA?

Both of them will have experience in applying to extend the non mol and may be able to help you.

Have the police got a marker on your property?

Hiya yes I do have a marker on my house.

Victim Support told me to contact Womens Aid and I did have a support worker through them, but because I couldn't have the 1 hr sessions with them due to the hours I work they closed my case 😩

I just feel so worried right now

@wejammin they have told me I can't re apply unless I pay 😩 which I can't afford

Any chance you can move? Or go stay with family or friends? If not, look to vary your timetable and routes too and from places. Consider a camera doorbell.

Hopefully you can get the non mol but font just sit about waiting if not. Youre your primary source of protection and right now I instincts are telling you you are in danger. So what can you do to minimise it?

If it were me, I'd move far away and delete all my social media for a start.

Refer yourself to the Natiknal Donestic violence centre tomorrow. They have a team of people who can do the forms/statements you need.

@laladell sorry I meant complete the form yourself. It's only 2 pages, if you have your original application and order also attach that to it.

Then you can take it to court for issue, or call the court and get the email address to issue it electronically. There's no fee.

You've had good advice here. I would just add, if your ex does ANYTHING that makes you feel at risk, please, please call the police immediately, make a statement, ensure its recorded and taken seriously.

@Pinkbonbon

Any chance you can move? Or go stay with family or friends? If not, look to vary your timetable and routes too and from places. Consider a camera doorbell.

Hopefully you can get the non mol but font just sit about waiting if not. Youre your primary source of protection and right now I instincts are telling you you are in danger. So what can you do to minimise it?

If it were me, I'd move far away and delete all my social media for a start.

I don't have any social media, moving farr away is easier said than done, my son has his school and his dad here etc and I have childcare that helps me be able to work a job that I do enjoy and a father who needs my care 😫 it's such a stress.

I live in a flat and the front and back doors to my block dont even have a lock on it and idk who I would contact as it's private

@gonnabeok

Refer yourself to the Natiknal Donestic violence centre tomorrow. They have a team of people who can do the forms/statements you need.

They were the ones who told me I had to go back to my original solicitors to get it extended 😬 will try them again I need to do anything at this point

@wejammin

Then you can take it to court for issue, or call the court and get the email address to issue it electronically. There's no fee.

So I won't need legal aid and it can just be extended again? X

Don't you have a number for your estate agent/landlord? Is the building itself private or council owned? I'd definately be pestering them to see about putting locks on the buildings outside doors. Tell them you've seen junkies in the statement, that'll soon motivate any landlords to get locks for the building.

Also, let your neighbours know your situation(If they seem decent) so that they can keep an extra eye out for you.

Don't open the door if he shows up no matter what, just call the police straight away and tell them you are being harassed and are scared.

*in the stairwell

You won't need legal aid if you do it yourself, if you feel up to it. You only really need a solicitor if he contests it, and if he contests it, that's the most telling reason why you need it extending.