Irritated by 18yo DS. Way is the psychology behind this?

[LynetteScavo]

I don't know why there isn't an Irritated topic.

DS has just come downstairs and asked for a plaster - I told him where they are (in the first aid box). On the way back upstairs he turned off the living room light saying "save electricity", leaving me in the dark with just the TV. He always leaves his bedroom light/TV on when he goes out, and outside light on if he comes home after I've gone to bed. I don't pull him up in this, I just quietly turn them off when I notice.

Last week he told me I'd left a bag of pears in my car. The next day he asked if I'd taken the bag out of my car. He drives his car around full of old McDonalds rubbish and i never comment (it's his car, and I never go in it, so I'm not bothered). Why would he mention a bag of pears in my car?!

These comments have really, really irritated me (DH says I'm being over sensitive) I can't figure out why DS would say them.

Should I start pulling him up on his imperfections?

In his own awkward way he is trying to help you.

I’m annoyed reading them! Is he also doing these to his dad or just do his mum a woman and therefore he knows much better. Oh look a women doesn’t know she wasting electric even though she sitting in the room- switches light off. Oh look silly woman left shopping in car I better remind her just to have something superior to say. I mean why not say where are your keys mum I’ve noticed left shopping in car on my way in etc.

I don't think it's because I'm a woman- he would do it to DH (who wouldn't be bothered) but he wouldn't do it to DD because she would scream at him.

Oh God this has brought a flashback of my XH who used to walk into the room if I was watching TV in the evening, switch off the light and say 'bedtime'. It is so rude.
Tell your DS when he starts paying the bill he can decide when you turn off the light, and yes, pull him up on all his minor infringements, Why didn't he bring the pears in for you, I guess if they were part of your grocery shopping he enjoyed eating them too ?

It's bossy and rude. They can be cocky little buggers at 18 and think they know everything though, so he'll probably grow out of it (my XH didn't but he was an absolute tool in so many ways he was a lost cause )

I would have made him come back and turn the light back on and I'd be asking how many McDonald's wrappers were in his car as a response to his question about yours. Think of it as a favour to his future wife.

Honestly ?I've gone back and re-read the opening post twice more as I can't understand what the issue is, let alone anything to make you "really really irritated".

I assume the turning the light off was a joke. My (adult) ds would find himself hilarious if he did that. I'd just roll my eyes a bit at it.
The rest, I can't see the issue at all.