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New job - big mistake

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Shannonz · 26/02/2022 01:01

I’ve left a job I loved and I think I’ve made a big mistake.

My previous job I worked 8am to 5pm 5 days a week, a new opportunity came doing the same role but for a different company that was 12.5 hours 3 days a week and it’s an extra £500 a month take home. I could really do with the extra money as I’m struggling so much to pay bills at the moment. I thought it would be perfect and as my mother very kindly has my son for me at least then she would only have to have him 3 days a week and I would get a whole 4 days with him! Just to add the 3 days a week are not together it could be Mon, Thurs, Fri one week and then completely different days the next week.

But I’ve started the job (only done 3 days) and I hate it. For a start it’s a lot more responsibility and the staff don’t seem very friendly. The day seems so long and I’m missing my son more than ever, due to the hours the time I finish it’s my sons bedtime so he’s been staying at my mothers and I feel like I’m having so much less time with him. He’s never stayed out before so I think that’s making it harder although he’s adapted well and absolutely adores my mother. I’m seriously struggling though. To the point where I’m crying driving home and scared we will loose the close bond we have.

Please can anyone tell me if this gets easier? Or have I made a really big mistake and maybe ask if I can go back to my old job?

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Shannonz · 26/02/2022 01:03

Just to add DS is 15 months so not in school yet which is great as I get to spend the whole day with him when I’m off. But also seems so young to be leaving him for that amount of time 😔

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Smartiepants79 · 26/02/2022 01:07

You’ve only done a week!!
It’s going to take longer than that to feel settled in a new job.
I can quite work out why you’re spending less time with your son? You were working 5 days,now only 3 for more money?
Think you need to give it more of a go before you write it off.

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 26/02/2022 01:12

It will be fine. He'll be with you most of the time and it will be normal. At that age they follow the adult lead so if your mum is happy and you're showing happy, he'll be happy. And the extra money will be good for you and him.

Shannonz · 26/02/2022 01:18

I know that’s what I keep telling myself that it will get easier and I’ll settle in. I can see how your getting confused between the 3 day week and 5 day week kind of thing but I feel like I’m spending less time because of the sleep overs, so for example if I’m working on a Monday I will drop him off Sunday night as I start so early it would mean getting him up at 4:30am to get him there on time and then getting to work on time. Then because I finish so late he’s already sleeping so don’t pick him up until the Tuesday, however if I was working the Tuesday as well I wouldn’t pick him up until the Wednesday if you see what I mean. And I would still have another shift some point that week where I would have to do the same thing again. When I was working 8am- 5pm I still got to see him everyday where as now I feel like I’m going days without seeing him.

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Shannonz · 26/02/2022 01:20

@PastMyBestBeforeDate

It will be fine. He'll be with you most of the time and it will be normal. At that age they follow the adult lead so if your mum is happy and you're showing happy, he'll be happy. And the extra money will be good for you and him.
Thank you. That is reassuring. I think I’m just a massive over thinker in general.
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