Skin cancer confusion

[BloodyBaffled]

I've just had a malignant lump removed. That's not the bit that's confusing me. Apologies if this is a bit rambling. Name changed also.
I have five kids (between 28 & 15), two different marriages. Second exh has was diagnosed with a big cancer about 6 years ago. Caused awful upset in my youngest 3, and the marriage ended (it was already dead before he became ill). Then two years ago, 1st exh was diagnosed with a different big cancer, adult offspring obviously very upset. All the children are very close and protective of me dueto their dad's illnesses. Both men now have prostate cancer on top of the original cancers.
Now I've had this thing removed, but I haven't been able to tell the kids the truth, so am I wrong for telling them that it was just a lump?

Sorry to hear about the lump, I hope that having it removed is the end of it but if not consider telling them at that point if it would be too upsetting to do it sooner

My mums had skin cancer twice but in her case it was the kind that they cut away and was done with. No treatment etc. If yours was the same then yes I’d carry on with the lump story. If you need treatment then tell them.

I think for me it would depend if that is hopefully the end of it. Or are you waiting for biopsy results and there's a chance you might need further treatment?

I didn't tell my adult children or very elderly mother when I had treatment for breast cancer.My dad had just died,lockdowns due to covid and mum was 200 miles away struggling enough as it was without the additional stress of my diagnosis.
My brother's wife died of breast cancer at a young age when my children were teenagers and they were very affected by the whole experience.Thankfully I wasn't in a similar situation and didn't want to worry them with something they could do nothing about and had essentially been dealt with.
My children know I had treatment as I had been having issues the previous year and was being monitored so it wasn't completely out of the blue.I may possibly have to tell them in the future if I thought it would have implications for them healthwise but at the moment it's not an issue.
You know your children and how they will react to the news so if you feel it's better not to tell them I think that's fine, I know some will disagree with me.I also found it easier to deal with it all not having to worry about how they were feeling.I only told a few people who gave me the support I needed.
I hope things get better for you, it sounds like you've had a tough time recently.

I dont think we have to tell our children everything that's going in our lives. If you don't need any further treatment then I'd leave it at that. Wishing you good health.

I’ve had five malignant melanomas removed (two needed a wider excision) and really a lot of basal cell carcinoma lasered, frozen off or treated with chemo cream and I haven’t told my three adult DC. I think there is no right or wrong here, you know your own DC and what’s best for you and your family.

Thanks all. My eldest said "it better not be bloody cancer!"

But as it's hereditary to a certain extent shouldn't you tell them so they can be watchful for their own health?

I hadn't thought of that. The consultant said it was Sun damage, but yes, I'll mention it sometime in the future...