Friends mum incredibly rude… WWYD

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I have a friend… he fell out with me about a year ago over something small and called me some pretty nasty things, we have since made it up… it’s not the same as before but it’s good enough, we weren’t absolute besties anyway so it’s no drama and I’m fine with the level the friendship is at. He has a male partner and they have children at the same school as mine, so before anyone asks it’s nothing relationship or sexual related that went on.

He txts me a fair amount, social checking in etc and sometimes arranging to meet up, both our lives have changed in different ways since covid and it’s not always possible, but it’s clear he would like to be more social etc,

However he had obviously told his mum about the ‘to do’ last year and his mum has I guess understandably sided with her son. I see his mum approx 3-4 times a week on the school run and we used to have a chat etc and at the very least always smile and wave.

Well now his mum literally completely looks me dead pan in the eye and blanks me or worse still gives me a dirty look. I find it so incredibly rude that I feel like telling the friend unless his mum changes her attitude then I’m not really interested in pursuing the friendship. It doesn’t intimidate me but I just cannot believe the rudeness of the mum.

What say you?

Mess with her. Play dirty.

You could start with " I aborted your grandchild".

Agree with @watcherintherye but tbh I would completely ignore the mother and probably pull back from the friendship. It sounds quite draining for a casual friend.

I would assume that his mum doesn't know that you've made up so I'd go up to her and say 'I've been trying to get a message to Gary to say I'll be late for our regular Thursday night drinks tonight but his phone seems to be off, would you mind letting him know?'

It's sounds like way too much drama for my liking.
I'd be finding new friends.
Or at the very least disengage totally from huffy mother. Life is too short for silly games like this.

@AlternativePerspective

Hardly surprising this appears to be happening in the school playground.

Seriously, “my friend’s mum ignores me so I’m going to say to him that either his mum speaks to me or I don’t want to be friends.” Grow up.

If you want to be friends with the man, be friends with him. He’s an adult, and his mum is not obliged to speak to you just because you’re friends with her son.

You’re all supposed to be adults, act like them.

I agree with this. The mother of one of my closest friends has been appallingly rude to me in the past, because she is a dreadful human being with no social judgement and a real streak of cruelty. That has no bearing on my friendship with her daughter (whose relationship with her is complex and unhappy).

If you see her giving you a dirty look, ask what the problem is.

His mother's behaviour is poor but I wouldn't blame friend. I would mention it though so he has chance to correct his mother on what happened or encourage her to be less immature.