Feeling sorry for myself- how to get over it?

[babywalker2]

Group of friends met up yesterday in my area and didn't invite me. I absolutely get that anyone can meet whoever they like and I don't have have be included in that. I only found out because I happened to walk past and see them in there- cue a very awkward exchange. I tried to keep it light and breezy but it did sting. They didn't invite me to join so I left(after getting a drink I wasn't intending to buy!). I've been friends with them for about 10 years. Had a baby 4 years ago and it hasn't been the same with covid etc. 2 of them are my ds godparents, too, so feeling a bit sorry for myself.
Trying not to fall into a slump, so here are some things I'm doing to help myself:
Match their energy (so not going out of my way to be so available but still be friendly etc)
Spend time with family (who are always there for me)
Wonder why I need their friendship to make me feel happy and validated
Take time for me (self care, hobbies, anything)
Create a new friendship circle (easier said than done but definitely possible)

I had a miscarriage last week so feel I need some time to be whole again anyway.
Is there anything else you think I could do?

Anyone want to share some tips? I'd be really grateful 🙏

Bitches the lot of them, you don't need them. Sounds like you have a plan in place to help you, that's brilliant. I'm so sorry about your loss love, I know how it feels. It's the exclusion that stings you don't sound like someone who needs external validation. Just give yourself time and relax, is there someone you're close to outside this group you can arrange to meet up with? Xx

@Neenawneenaw76

Bitches the lot of them, you don't need them. Sounds like you have a plan in place to help you, that's brilliant. I'm so sorry about your loss love, I know how it feels. It's the exclusion that stings you don't sound like someone who needs external validation. Just give yourself time and relax, is there someone you're close to outside this group you can arrange to meet up with? Xx

Thank you. No friends close by or any that are easily able to free up time. Dh has been supportive and we are going out today to help clear my head. I work with a lot of these friends so they will be hard to avoid (and I don't want to do that completely) I think I just blurred the line between colleagues and friendship. I would like to care about it all a lot less though!

I am so sorry, I would be hurt by that too. You sound to be doing lots to help yourself and you will find it matters less.

I am really sorry to read about your miscarriage - look after yourself.

@FiveShelties

I am so sorry, I would be hurt by that too. You sound to be doing lots to help yourself and you will find it matters less.

I am really sorry to read about your miscarriage - look after yourself.

Thank you. I'm not very resilient at the moment and feeling quite vulnerable. Perhaps this is why I've taken it so hard. I feel so sad about the baby. I was only 6 weeks but I feel so sad about it.

Sorry about your miscarriage - do these friends know it happened?