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2 year old left the house and ran into the road

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Moonshine160 · 22/02/2022 18:21

About an hour ago me and my little boy who’s 2, nearly 3, were playing a game in the living room. He kept grabbing his little rucksack and saying “bye mummy I’m going to work” then shutting the living room door and sitting on the bottom stair giggling. When he did it the final time I left it a minute but he didn’t come back in the living room and I couldn’t hear him so I was shouting him and to my absolute horror went into the kitchen and found the back door wide open. He’d ran out and down the side of the house through our gate which I’d shut but not locked and I found him wandering in the road crying and shouting for me. We live on a fairly busy road, well it’s very busy during rush hour, and cars had stopped both ways. It’s meant to be 30mph but cars fly down. I grabbed him and apologised to the first driver who was lovely but I am absolutely mortified and I don’t know how I’ll ever get over this. It could have ended terribly and I feel like the worst mother ever. It’s completely my fault for not making sure that the gate and back door were both locked.
I’m worried that one of the drivers is going to call social services or something. I just don’t know how I’m ever going to get over this and that I could have lost my little boy.

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UserWithNoUserName · 22/02/2022 19:05

Oh gosh how terrifying for you OP. Really glad your son is OK! This happens to loads of people and doesn't mean you are a bad mother at all- a bad mother wouldn't have noticed he'd gone.

Make sure all the doors are locked (and key out of reach), and hopefully he won't be able to get out again.

3luckystars · 22/02/2022 19:09

I know someone who kindly took his children out for the day to give their mother a ‘break’, they were at the train station and the child climbed over the bridge down the other side and onto another train. He only noticed as the train doors closed on the other train and it was pulling away.
Luckily someone on the other train had seen what had happened and signalled to the dad to meet her at the next stop, and he got the child back. The mother still does not know this happened.

TravellingFrom · 22/02/2022 19:11

DH found dc, then aged 20 months, on the top of the conservatory roof one day.

We were building said conservatory. Dc was in the garden with THREE adults (DH and his parents) but somehow he climbed the ladder and found his way up to walk on that roof….
Just as well he was quite light at that age!

littlebilliie · 22/02/2022 19:12

I'm sorry to say you will remember this forever. We were abroad and I had a similar incident with my DS, we had parked up near the beach and unpacking the car. The of DCs were being lifted out and I noted Ds Had wandered out between the cars. I grabbed his arm and guided him back. In that second he was safe a truck shot past which would have killed him. I still go cold thinking about it

MarshaBradyo · 22/02/2022 19:12

It’s so hard to process these what ifs

It will take time

I’m so glad he’s ok

Harrysutton · 22/02/2022 19:14

I feel for you but keep telling yourself nothing bad happened and lock the door.

My ds escaped at a party and was sat on our drive playing. Someone who had popped out found him. No one had noticed he was missing. Awful and I ran through so many what ifs. He's 12 now and loves the story.

ThistlesAndUnicorns · 22/02/2022 19:15

My son used to do the same! I ended up locking doors at all times and hanging the key up very high.

We do laugh about it now he's a teen!

It was an accident you couldn't have foreseen if he's so young and it hadn't happened before. He's safe and you'll be vigilant from now on. Please give yourself a break Flowers

OhNoWhatYouGonnaDo · 22/02/2022 19:18

My son managed to unlock our locked front door aged 23 months. A kindly passer-by rang the doorbell to ask if we knew that he and his crawling younger sister were playing on the pavement near the road. We moved house shortly after, and within a couple of months he could unlock our new front door and escape that house as well. We bought door locks from Amazon, which might be worth a try for you? I know locks on bedroom doors are controversial on MN but we used them overnight to ensure our kids couldn't escape onto the street while we slept.

Mossstitch · 22/02/2022 19:21

I still have flashbacks and that sick in your stomach feeling from incidents that happened with my three (always when in the 'care' of ex I have to say as I was a velcro mum with eyes👀 in the back of my head) and they are all in their 30s😂
I once watched my husband from across a fairground with my youngest upside down in a mini boating pool whilst he was completely oblivious stood next to him, I was with another child on a merry go round. How any of them survive is beyond me as they do there utmost to die or seriously injure themselves at every opportunity!! Be kind to yourself, you are doing your best💐

Bunnycat101 · 22/02/2022 19:21

I also remember as a 4yo I managed to leave school one day and walk home as I didn’t want to stay anymore . Doubt that would happen now most schools seem to have locked gates but children have always been escape artists.

SeekingBalance · 22/02/2022 19:22

Op another one in solidarity. My 3 year old very enthusiasticly ran into the road when he saw a big puddle to jump in...I had just had a c section and my god I think the whole road heard me screaming. Children are the ultimate test I'm sure! It will take a while to get over this, but you will. Sending hugs.

Tequilabeliever · 22/02/2022 19:29

Blimey hope you’re ok. I would definitely ensure all doors are locked when you’re in the house.

Moonshine160 · 22/02/2022 19:30

Thank you everyone for being so kind. The back door is usually locked and the gate bolted but it’s typical that on the day I forget to do both he made an escape :( he’s never tried before. You’re right though we need to get some higher up locks that he can’t reach as I’m sure the next thing will be him managing to unlock them!
I’ve calmed down a little now - I was in such a state and having an out of body experience thinking that he’d actually been hit by one of the cars but I wasn’t realising it yet. I’m 9 weeks pregnant and extremely hormonal right now! I’m just so glad he’s safe.

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sleighbellsjiggling · 22/02/2022 19:37

You poor thing but yes, it happens! My DS has taken advantage of an unlocked door twice. Straight onto a main road and wandered off. The door is always locked now and he's got pretty good at staying right by my feet when we go out now (age 3). The fear still gets me in the dead of night sometimes though...

gettingolderandgrumpy · 22/02/2022 19:42

When my dc was very young in a pram I parked the pram put the brake on or so I thought looked for my key in my bag for like a second and the pram had started rolling into the road . I turned and it was like everything had gone onto slow motion I ran and grabbed the pram and a car was coming but stopped . I still wake up sweating years later about that dc is now a adult . I don’t think I’ve ever forgiven myself .

Babadook76 · 22/02/2022 19:45

These things happen op. You can 100% forgive yourself the first time. Social services are not going to be knocking on your door. But now you know he has the potential to walk out of the house when unattended so you know to put things in place for the future

User48751490 · 22/02/2022 19:45

This kind of near miss reminds me of my child leaning out of a window upstairs (roughly 3/4yo), when I had briefly left him playing with toys. He could have fallen out and been injured so I bought safety locks online for windows immediately and made sure nothing sinister could ever happen. Yes, I had nightmares from thinking about what could have happened for days.

Breathe. You got to your boy in good time and he is safe now💐

Tomorrow is a new day.

Bailey48 · 22/02/2022 19:47

Don't worry same thing happened to me the absolute worst day of my life I now have an alarm on the door and constantly lock the door and it is more common than you think the guilt is horrendous x

Amnotamug · 22/02/2022 19:48

There are very few parents on this planet who have never had a ‘what if ‘ tale to tell! Don’t feel bad about this …he is now safe and lesson learned . My daughter did the same when she was two and went to local rec looking for the clip clops …carpet fitter had left the gate open and I hadn’t noticed. 💐

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 22/02/2022 19:48

My sister packed a little bag and told our mum she was going shopping. She was about 5? Mum said OK dear, have fun, thinking it was a lovely play game.

Some time later she saw a man walking her up the street back to the house - they didn't know him, luckily he was just a nice man who helped get her back home.
(Waves to mum or sis!)
Terrifying!

Don't worry OP, you just have felt absolutely gutwrenchingly panicked but he's safe now and you'll remember to lock doors forever more! Have a Wine or a Cake and try to unwind. Poor thing!

Whitefire · 22/02/2022 19:55

My old neighbour used to tell me about the time her ds had let himself out in little more than a pair of wellies. I know of a pair of twins who work together to make their escape.
I actually locked my youngest out, thought she was in, locked up to then hear a little bang on the door and a tearful little toddler on the step.

As well as a lock one of the door sensors may be a good idea. We have one that is attached to our alarm but I think you can get standalone ones.

ifonly4 · 22/02/2022 20:12

He's ok. You can learn from this however. Keep back and front doors locked, keys out of reach, as well as gate locked. However, worth leaving a key with a trusted neighbour (if you have one) so if they have any concerns they can enter.

Minniem2020 · 22/02/2022 20:37

I was out gardening with DD who I thought was right beside me, looked up and he was using his toy lawnmower in the middle of the road. That was the day he figured out how to open the gate. I've been expecting him to make his escape out of the front door anytime so always have high catches on now so he can't reach

Moonshine160 · 23/02/2022 06:52

Thanks everyone, your stories help. God I had a nightmare about it last night though :( horrific.

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Fridafever · 23/02/2022 07:05

Aww it’s awful when you have something like that. It will honestly feel less traumatic in time. There was a brilliant story on here about a little girl who let herself out of a back garden and arrived back home at the front door with an ice lolly accompanied by the man from the corner shop and she was completely naked!

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