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Realtionship advice please?

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SashaCummings · 21/02/2022 21:58

So I’ve recently broke with my partner of 2 years (his choice) sort of been a while coming but not something we both wanted . He thought was for the best as he felt he was being selfish keep holding on to me. We’re still good friends atm and see each other all the time but without anything sexual . I have 4 children (none his) 2 teenage girls and a 4 year old girl and only one mixed race boy. The other kids are white . He can’t accept my mixed race little boy he avoids the children. He has his own 2 children one teenage girl and one nearly 4 year old girl , he left his relationship with his baby mum as that had ended and we met and had our relationship but he went from living with her and his daughter to being with me and my kids and carried a lot of guilt being with other kids and not his own daughter as he had always been there . That lead him to distance himself from my children but I know he doesn’t feel right taking on a mixed race child with him being a white nan he says it doesn’t feel right and feels people would be staring etc. I’ve been in a couple of abusive rubbish relationships and have finally found someone that I feel is perfect in every way except the child situation and we both very much love each other. What do I do? How do I move on ? It’s so hard I just want to be with him but I don’t want him to feel that way about my son I’m really lost

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Cocycola · 21/02/2022 23:08

He is far from perfect to feel ashamed of a CHILD because of their skin colour. He is vile! Cut all ties, get rid of the racist and move on with your life Flowers . Not easy, but you have to get rid of this racist lowlife. Do you really want to have a future with a man who avoids your kids?

Justilou1 · 21/02/2022 23:13

He’s a racist. How could you possibly consider opening yourself up to someone that openly rejects your child?

Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin · 21/02/2022 23:14

He has done your poor child a favour

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thisyearsuckssofar · 21/02/2022 23:22

Wtf? You're well rid of him. He's not a good person.

Aquamarine1029 · 21/02/2022 23:23

How can a man be "perfect" when he's a nasty racist? Unbelievable.

SashaCummings · 22/02/2022 00:28

I shouldn’t of used the word perfect at all that was wrong, what mean is from my past relationships that were Physically and emotionally very abusive this one is so much better when it comes to how me and him
Are with each other . It’s the first time I feel like someone actually treats me really good and is there for me, but I know the children situation is completely wrong . Just how do I move on when I love him still he loves me but I know we can’t be together

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BritInAus · 22/02/2022 03:21

I'm sorry you've been in abusive relationships in the past. Just because someone isn't abusing you, doesn't make them a good person. He sounds like a total tool. Please find some self respect and enjoy some time alone before considering another relationship - and when you do, set your bar much, much higher.

PeacefulPrune · 22/02/2022 03:49

He sounds like a horrible person. Your poor child, please prioritize your child as no one else will. This man should not be in your child's life at all.

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