What age did your child stop throwing regular tantrums?

[JammyCandy]

I know someone will be along very soon to say “38” or “never” or something, and I know older children or even some adults still have meltdowns.

But can anyone help a struggling mum to feel better. What age did your child stop throwing meltdowns several times a day?

DC is 3.5 and it’s getting worse not better

Terrible twos have nothing on the fearsome threes, which have nothing in the fu*king fours…so maybe around 5? I remember being surprised with my first that her tantrums didn’t magically stop on the day she turned 3 🤔. 3s and 4s were still a challenge and things probably improved when they start school. But then they’re really tired and grumpy 🤦🏽‍♀️.

Terrible 2s were a breeze compared to 3.5 to now! The last 8 months or so have been horrendous for us with DS behaviour, I keep telling myself it's a phase but it's turning into a very long one

DS is newly 5 and the tantrums have reduced massively in frequency in the last 9 months. It happened so gradually that it took me a while to notice! He does still occasionally let rip but they tend to be over and done with quickly. The lengthy bathtime tantrum that involved a refusal to go upstairs to the bath, then to get in the bath, then to get out of the bath etc etc seem to have stopped (I'll be sorry I said that)

It does improve - I think it's happened as he's been able to be more articulate about how he's feeling.

If it helps, I read some research (I think from Australia) that found that while it's tempting to intervene, (cajole, coax, bribe, beg, get angry, pray) during a tantrum, they actually pass faster if you don't get involved. Thought that was interesting. Observing rather than interacting was much harder than it sounds though!

5 was the point they started to space out a lot. At 6 she still has the odd tantrum - she's a terrible loser at cards.

My 9 year old calmed down a lot by 6 but it was quite a short space before toddler tantrums gave way to screaming and slamming her bedroom door.

So they weaken and change but don't necessarily'stop'

Everybody's capable of a hissy fit at some point let's face it
Ds9 had one in Boots before Christmas.
But they stopped being a big problem at around 4.
He throws the odd one now and again but nothing regular.

I've been a nanny for 15 years. 3 is, without exception, the worst age!!! Keep ploughing on OP.

That’s for the support

Yes realise everyone throws an occasional hissy fit

Just want to reach the point where it’s not ruining full days on a regular basis & we’re not having full blown meltdowns about things like what shoes to wear or whether to get in the bath

Thanks for support

@JammyCandy we’re going through this at the moment and it’s so hard. Did things improve and any tips to manage it? X

Maybe 5 or 6? But they still do it occasionally when older if very tired