No trust left...

[Alwaysforgiving]

Posting here for traffic. How do you move on from having no trust left? My husband over the years has always done something that to some would be deal-breakers (I've always seen them as minor offenses in comparison to the rest of the relationship). We've now come to a point where he repeatedly lied to my face for a year and I don't believe what he says. As much as I don't think it's a reason to end our marriage, I've become snappy and intolerant to his normal self. This is obviously not very nice to live with but I can't help how I feel, and the prospect of never believing what my husband says seems exhausting at the very least.

What sort of things does he lie about? What would you consider to be your own personal dealbreakers?

Domestic violence physical and/or emotional infidelity. Lack of financial transparency (going forward). There's probably more, but that's what I can think of.

@Alwaysforgiving

Domestic violence physical and/or emotional infidelity. Lack of financial transparency (going forward). There's probably more, but that's what I can think of.

To the majority of people, these are not minor. You're in an abusive relationship and you need to leave. You can't get past someone lying to you every day. You'll never trust them again. For your own sake leave.

He hides actions i.e. he once used my credit card without my permission, he lied about taking this loan (although I would have never been particularly upset about it) and lord about clearing his overdraft.

@peboh those are my deal-breakers not what he has lied about.

In my case (too old to reinvent myself and too complex to leave) I separated all aspects of my life away from his affairs, basically we live under one roof but have separate lives.

I'm not old, I'm still young (if anything too young), I just feel like giving up.