Contact order with ex ,

[Angie5423]

Hi. I have a 2 year old daughter with my ex , he walked out 3 months ago and had no contact, out the blue I got a letter from him lawyers asking to see her , he now has his own house , not paid a penny for her , his lawyer never answered about payment only why would I recommend a contact center supervised, which my ex is refusing to do . I want this at a center as he walked out and never came back and was told of his aunt he's drinking heavily and taking vallium and hanging around similar people and am worried about his mental health. He won't communicate at all with me and now his family don't speak to me , so they can't help or my family, how can my daughter stay or go to his house if he's refusing to communicate with me or aggre to anything I put forward. My daughter who's 2 is non verbal and just been diagnosed with autism and dosnt like been out her routine or been away from me , hes not seen her for 3months , how can I move forward, I have my lawyers next week

Unfortunately you can't withhold contact without good evidence or a paper trail of your concerns for the welfare of your child. Sure, 3 months absence is a long time in.the life of a small child. Maybe start with you supervising by meeting at a park or cafe and build up gradually. He doesn't sound the sort to put himself out for a parenting role, I don't think he'll be bidding for residency, unless it's to upset you.

I don't think a supervised contact at the outset is unreasonable. He hasn't seen the kid in 3 months and she is autistic. To be diagnosed at 2 she's is quite severely Autistic I'd assume. If it is not helpful for you to supervise the visit then I think a contact centre is reasonable given there is no family who have maintained contact who you could trust.

Oh and get yourself onto the CMS for maintenance. Separate that from contact "pay per view" doesn't go down well in court if he takes it that far.

He won't communicate to me or cone anywhere near ne for some reason, I've done nothing wrong and always been a kind caring partner. He seems unstable.

Little owl. He is definitely won't see my side , my daughter is very autistic and dosnt speak, he has been told and still doing this , I don't know what to do with my lawyer next week as I just got the response from his lawyer he won't do contact centre or speak to me x

Do remember op his solicitor will write whatever shite they are paid to write.
Mediation may be suggested. If he refuses then so be it. You don't go straight to court. Especially if you have suggested things and he has just refused you currently have the upper hand. Don't blow that by refusing mediation. Contact Cms. Dc aren't pay per view but a judge will give a dim view on no financial support.

Think meditation is what I will put forward next week. My concern is my daughter, he only dosnt want to speak to me because he will think am going to ask all sorts about him walking out , I am well past that and putting me self and daughter first and not entering his immature behaviour. I will contact CMS.

You could also speak to your Dr about a letter confirming your dd's diagnosis.. My exh also denied ds had a medical condition. Made him look a twat tbh. It will be relevant in any contact given if he isn't capable /willing to accommodate her needs.

Yeah I will, also my health visitor has been supporting me about my daughter and her number was forward to his lawyer for any updates but he's not bothered.

Ask the hv for a short letter confirming she has had no contact with your ex. Outside bodies who can back up your claims are invaluable

Yeah she will. Its very frustrating, I wish he would wake up and talk yo me reasonably instead getting advice from his family, . He told them I flung him out and won't let him see her , joke all of them , they have only seen her a handful of times

The less they bother the less toxicity she has in her life.

Definitely