If you live with your family

[TheChosenTwo]

(As in dc and or partner or anyone else really, I just mean not if you live on your own) do you have a group text or WhatsApp for daily admin?
It recently dawned on me that I’m the one person everyone checks in with and I then have to field the information on to everyone else a few more times so everyone has the same message.
I suppose examples are things like dd1 texting me to say she’ll be home late, what’s for dinner, to which I then go and check with dh as he cooks and then go back and respond to her. She will then ask another question that I have to go and ask him the answer to, I just end up phoning her and giving him the phone.
Or dd2 texting me to say she’s on the train home but needs picking up from the station, knowing I’m at work but that dh will be home etc etc.
It’s all just minor things but I decided to set up a group chat so everything admin based can just go in there, everyone receives the same message at once and no one (ME) needs to spend time replying or calling back and then repeating messages. It’s something different every day, those were just examples.
Anyway…. Dh and the dds think it’s totally unnecessary and over the top ridiculous.
I’m reaching a point of some kind of stress related meltdown (mainly work and wider family commitments, not my nuclear family) and I just wanted one system to make things a bit easier and to make everyone a bit less reliant on just me.
Am I being a bit of a drama queen?! I appreciate I’m feeling a bit low at the moment so I’m maybe being more indignant about this than I might otherwise.

We have multiple groups within our extended family. Those households with multiple members with mobiles have their own household whatsapp groups too. It's obvious and means that it's then the appropriate person's role to respond.
It sounds to me, like noone else wants take ultimate responsibility or accountability for anything and expect you to always do so.

Yep household family WhatsApp group here. Most friends with teens have them tbh

It’s dd, dh, and me. We all text one another singly and as a group pretty appropriately. Dd used to only message me, but we cured her of that.

We also use Microsoft To-do to track various tasks. Those lists are mostly for DH and me, but as dd gets older she is sometimes added. Like if we need to do a general tidy up, I can list the tasks, assign some to individuals and leave some for picking, and everyone checks off what has been done.

Yeahhhh, I'm part of a (newly created) blended family. There are 6 of us, plus all of the associated animals, in and out of the house. A family WhatsApp group really helps. Still feel like I'm floundering though, going from living alone to this mayhem

No I left the family chat as dd13 was being a pain in the arse spamming it with crap.

Both older dds will text both of us the same message though if they need an urgent question answered.

Yes.
We have various groups with various combinations, but yes, the "House Family" Group is used for things like you mention in your OP.

If dh thinks it is unnecessary, then suggest to your dc that they contact him directly as you won't be responding to messages when you are at work anymore.

We have one. It’s 99% me issuing bossy instructions about food and laundry and vacuuming and 1% someone replying “ok”

We have one for me, partner and our children. If one of the children needs a lift or something that day, they still phone one of us, rather than use the group chat, but they’ll call whoever is more likely to be free at the time. It tends to be more ‘chat’ on the WhatsApp or things that need sorting for the next week or photos/videos of us or our animals.

I’d be a be pissed off at your DH and daughters saying you’re being OTT, very easy for them to say when they are not the ones being constantly asked do/check stuff. They probably don’t want it because it might increase their workload rather than them just leaving it all to you.