If you earn more than your DP are they proud of you?

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My DP and I are middle aged and while I earned more when we got together for many years he has earned considerably more (I was part time etc) for the last 20 years while we had children. Until I miraculously got a new job that earns more than him, 20 grand more. He has been so lovely about, proud and pleased. This is normal right? Men are happy for you to succeed etc? My new status of main breadwinner hasn’t let me off domestic duties though, I am still het for everything.

Mine is proud of me and is planning to be the primary caregiver to future DC (assuming we're lucky enough to have them). Smashing the patriarchy one baby step at a time!

He even followed me around the country to prioritize my career. He is no slouch either and actually is a higher earner at the moment. We tend to go back and forth.

Asked him: 'I'm proud that you're good at your job."

Happy yes as I am for him we are a team and anything that benefits us as a family is good.

Yes he is. He even facilitated it by being a SAHD for a while

My ex didn’t like it but it wasn’t the only problem, hence he is an ex.

Yes very much so.

For our first 8/9 years together I was on a low salary and he worked in a skilled job working shifts which bumped his salary up to probably 3 times more than mine.

He wasn't happy in the job though and was desperate to step away from shift work to give us better family time. Luckily as this was happening I had studied for a degree in my area of work and was headhunted and given a much bigger salary.

He always says he is so proud and appreciative because that bugger salary meant he could do something he actually enjoyed rather than the horrible shifts.

I earn double his wage now and he comes home from his IT retail job smiling. (Which is the best reward I could have)

Yes he’s known how hard I’ve worked to get to this position and how much it means to me.

He’s also been a huge help along the way

Yes he is proud of my career, and not in a patronising way either which is nice

I currently don't, mine is a high earner and I'm about 50k behind at the moment. However if the tables did turn, he would be very happy for me.

Yup, very proud. I was senior to him at the same company when we met but he (in a very respectful way) made the first move. I earn about 50% more than him now. He frequently tells people how hard I work and how great I am at my job.

I'm not sure proud is quite the right word. It's not something he has had any influence over and proud to me suggests he's had some involvement with where I am today. He'll be the first to admit it's not the case. He has no issue with me being the main wage earner which is what's important to me.

Yes I think so. He’s also very successful himself so I suspect my earning power doesn’t intimidate or undermine him, he’d do very well without me but my earnings gold plate our situation.

Yes hes super proud . We work in the same industry but very different roles; similar to hes a car mechanic and I'm head of design at Ferrari. He loves telling people what I do and how proud he is of me. He picks up the slack at home and enables me to be available for travel at short notice for work and it would have been very difficult to achieve my level of success if he hadn't been so supportive and willing to put his own career on the back burner.

Mine’s earning about the same as me now, but for most of our lives together I’ve earned more. He’s always been proud of me and even tried a little boast about my job recently but got trumped by the other guy whose wife is something much more impressive than me at work

I've always earned more than my DH and yes he's proud but I'm just a full time working parent like him. He was proud when I got my PhD as was I when he got his masters and it kinda stopped there really, the rest pays for our lives, mortgage, holidays etc

I never quite got men who feel insecure when their partner earns more then them as if it is some kind of direct assault on their masculinity. As far as I am concerned all earnings go into the same pot and it's a win win for all. Why would you not feel proud of your partner if they got some promotion and pay rise??

Of course its normal for your DP to be proud of your achievements, but I don't understand what you mean by ' My new status of main breadwinner hasn’t let me off domestic duties though, I am still het for everything'.

Why on earth would everything be down to you, whether you earn the most or not? Surely you should split home stuff so you both pull your weight? Alternatively, spend you extra income buying in help, so you're not doing it all.