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Do you feel a strong emotional attachment to any things like say your house ?

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LovelyYellowLabrador · 18/02/2022 23:45

I do feel a very strong emotional attachment to my house
As it’s the one place when my life has been tricky horrific that I can fully be myself and the energy from the house is loving and good like the ground it’s built in is good

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FionnulaTheCooler · 19/02/2022 16:36

I had an attachment to my first car too, it was an old banger that had been bought for me to learn on but I passed my test in it, moved my stuff in it when I moved in with now DH and it took me to the hospital to give birth to DD (not me driving!). I really didn't want to get rid of it but had to concede defeat when I got an eye watering quote for repairs for getting it through its MOT that was more than the whole car was worth.

workwoes123 · 19/02/2022 16:39

No I generally don’t. I’ve moved a lot and I’ve learned over time that feelings (because that’s all they are) of security and contentent etc can be recreated pretty much anywhere, if you are feeling secure and content in yourself.

So I work on that. Get your head straight and everything else follows. I understand why people develop attachments to certain places or things. And I choose not to. It’s just stuff - old, new, house, car, whatever.

It’s a big part of stoicism and Buddhism too: not getting too attached to material possessions, or even to people. I find it a peaceful to live,

Somethingsnappy · 19/02/2022 19:11

I feel very strong attachments to houses, yes. I still drive past both houses that belonged to my grandparents, where I spent huge amounts of time growing up. I feel a sense of loss every time I pass them; one in particular which has a lot of land attached to it where we used to play with cousins as children. The house is empty now and the land unloved and overgrown

On a good note, I'm moving back into my childhood home with my children and husband soon, so that's one I won't have to say goodbye to.

CrimbleCrumble1 · 19/02/2022 19:43

No not really, I do love my house but I know I could make another one as homely.

GTAlogic · 19/02/2022 19:58

Things that my dc have either made or given me I suppose, since they can't be replaced. The box full of photo albums. Other than that I think everything is replaceable so even though it'd be a pain in the arse to lose them, I wouldn't be absolutely devastated.

GTAlogic · 19/02/2022 20:01

Our house is a bog standard council house and doesn't belong to us. We have lived here for nearly 10 years but still haven't decorated or anything. It'd be annoying and stressful but if it went up in flames we'd be rehoused and could easily make another one feel like this.

Papergirl1968 · 19/02/2022 20:15

My first house, perhaps because it represented freedom to me after feeling stifled at my parents ' home, plus it was on a hill with great view and just had a really lovely vibe despite being a new build. I had to move when I had DC because it was too small, the garden wasn't really suitable for kids, etc.
Current house...not so much. It suited my needs and at is where I brought my DC up but also where we have had some very difficult times as a family, and so I'm a bit meh about it. I don't hate it but I don't love it like my first house.
I also have a strong emotional attachment to some areas. Like whenever I go to Wales it feels like coming home as I cross the border. Perhaps I was Welsh in a past life. And to a lesser extent I've felt the same in Cornwall, the Isle of Man and Ireland. Not Scotland though.

ChurchlightJane · 19/02/2022 20:25

Yes I'm extremely attached to my home. The weight of the world lifts as soon as I shut the door. I've been here ten years but still find myself patting the walls with gratitude as I walk around sometimes. Cleaning the beautiful Minton floors and fireplaces I'm always thinking about how much I love this house. I take pleasure in that cleaning because I love the fabric of this house.

I also love my home town Cathedral. I pat the walls there too☺️ Its my Cathedral. It belongs to me personally. In my head of course.

35andThriving · 24/02/2022 20:24

Yes, I am way too sentimental for my own good and I really need to streamline my possessions! The only building I ever really felt a strong emotional connection to is my grandparents' old house.

Notdoingthis · 24/02/2022 20:42

I do love my house. It represents everything I thought I would never have. Most importantly, space.

shakinsti · 24/02/2022 20:50

My grandparents house. They've lived there my whole life whereas I've moved house a lot. I'm very close to my grandparents, and spent a lot of time there as a child because both my parents worked shifts. I just feel so comfortable there, really feel at home, it's just lovely.

RedRobyn2021 · 24/02/2022 21:00

Love my house so much. Felt safe here through when I was frightened in the first lockdown. Had my baby here in this very spot I'm sitting in.

Unfortunately it's going to be too small when we have more children so it won't be my forever house ☹️

LondonReturner · 27/02/2022 00:42

Is a tree a “thing” in this sense? If so, my silver birch tree. It’s old and beautiful and I love it and feel responsible for it — like I’m its guardian. Silly, I know.

RoastedFerret · 27/02/2022 00:49

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I sort of wish I could, if that makes any sense, but I just can’t. There’s not one object, apart from perhaps photos of my kids, that I’d be really cut up to lose. But I’ve moved many, many times in my life and lost a lot of things on the way. So I’ve had to decide not to be unhappy about it.

Pretty much the same here. Moved a lot, even as a kid. I don't have any feelings towards our home really, it's just a house. If we couldn't live here we would live somewhere else. I quite like changing things up and moving, hate the idea of a 'forever home' it sounds depressing to me. I can't think if anything other than my family and pets that I'm attached to really. Certainly no possessions I currently own anyway.

user1471453601 · 27/02/2022 00:56

A Greek island. It's quite like the small village in the UK that I was born in, and left as soon as I was able.

I love going there and being there. But I also love leaving. It's very odd.

Justgivemewine · 27/02/2022 01:49

When I was a kid I always had a sense of feeling at home once I walked into the road my house was on.

My first house with dh, I never had that feeling, I was constantly looking at other houses on rightmove etc, it never felt right and when we moved into our current house, I had no feeling of sadness at leaving a house I’d lived in for 10 years, and that in itself seems a bit sad.

Our current house felt right the first time I walked through the front door to view it. I get the same feeling of being home that I did as a kid getting home from school.
I have nightmares (only occasionally) that we moved/sold the house and made a big mistake and want to rebuy it.

So yeah, I’m attached to my current house. Also It’s the place the dc grew up. I can see us being here until we need to move due to whatever reason in old age.

DukeofEarlGrey · 27/02/2022 02:00

I love my home too. Like a PP I immediately feel peaceful and safe just walking up the road. I live in a small flat but it’s the first place I’ve ever lived that was truly peaceful and mine and even though I’ve been here for years now there are still times when when I walk up our quiet road I feel incredibly lucky.

I’m not attached to many other physical things but do have some jewellery that belonged to my late grandmother and a much loved teddy from childhood that I treasure.

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