To let him help?

[WindyHail]

Been seeing someone for 3 months. He's very nice and we can a great time. I need some work doing on my car that I can't afford. He's got someone to do it and offered to pay for it. No one I've been in a relationship with before has ever helped me. Should I accept?

As a loan yes. As a gift no. But I have a fear of 'Mr Nice Guy' and the whole dynamic of "after all I've done for you......"

In a 3 month relationship I probably wouldn't accept it.

How much is it? Can you afford to pay him back in installments?

It's about 250. I will pay him back

I agree. See it as a loan and pay back what you can when you can. Don't behold to anyone. It is early days

No I wouldn’t accept.

I feel like a charity case. Hahaa

What would you have done if he didn't offer?

Not got the work done or took moneys from my sons account which I don't want to do

If you're paying it back then I would use the money from your sons account tbh. Better than being beholden to a guy you've only been dating for 3 months.

What happens if he pisses you off next week and you want to chuck him? It's going to be tough to do when you're due him money.

@WindyHail

Not got the work done or took moneys from my sons account which I don't want to do

I would borrow it from your sons account, rather than a man you have "Known" for three months.

I'd not accept as I'd feel beholden to him.

So you do have the money.

Take it from your sons account and pay it back into that.

Why on earth would you take a loan from someone you’ve only known for 12 weeks, rather than use money you actually do have, and have access to?

I like to leave my child's account alone. I'd rather owe someone

You don't have a credit card? In your situation I'd borrow it from your son's account as you're going to pay it back anyway.

No I don't have credit cards. Never have

@WindyHail

I like to leave my child's account alone. I'd rather owe someone

You would be owing someone, your son.

You don't want to be owing someone you've been dating 12 weeks a lot of money.

I think you just wanted people to validate a poor decision and talk about how wonderful this guy is though so I'm sure you'll take the money anyways 🤷🏻‍♀️

@WindyHail

I like to leave my child's account alone. I'd rather owe someone

If you are going to pay this man back then you can pay your son back instead

@ABCeasyasdohrayme bit harsh I don't think OP is looking for validation it appears she is musing her options and pontificating the best option 🤔 have you got family you could loan money from or do you work place offer an emergency advancement on your wages? I would take NP up on offer of loan but only if you are sure you can pay back ASAP as NP could use it against you at a later date.

I dont think it is harsh.

She has asked if she should accept.

Most people have said no and given alternative options.

The op has dismissed them all.

With the whole " no-one has ever helped me" and "I feel like a charity case haaa" thing when she has money sitting there that she can pay back she obviously doesn't want opinions, she just wants to be told to accept this money from this wonderful generous guy.

@WindyHail

I like to leave my child's account alone. I'd rather owe someone

Go ahead then, if that makes more sense to you,

@ABCeasyasdohrayme "I think you just wanted people to validate a poor decision and talk about how wonderful this guy is though so I'm sure you'll take the money anyways 🤷🏻‍♀️"
I think this is a bit harsh actually basing a judgement that OP is looking for validation when neither you or I know her situation. Maybe don't judge, be kind and offer a constructive response 🤷‍♀️