My sister won't let my daughter go near her..

[Donut93]

Ever since covid happened, my little one hasn't been allowed within 2 metres of my parents and little sister. They live together, I live with my partner and 2 year old. Since The first lockdown March 2020, my parents and sister haven't held or gone within 2 metres of her. We see them around once a week but that's it. We're all double/triple jabbed, we even said we would do tests before we came up to see them (they live 10 mins away) but they still don't want to go near her because my sister says she's too anxious about it all. She has some health problems but nothing life threatening. Not sure what to suggest to them? It's awful for my little one not being able to have a relationship with my family like she should be able too

Why are you bothering, it's stressing you out and affecting your child. I'd stop going and if asked tell them, Sis needs to get some help, she is killing the relationship with your Dd and the grandparents, let me know when she's got herself sorted out. Then leave them to it.
Do they go to get groceries, or out anywhere else? Surely they haven't been trapped inside with her for 2 years.

They go shopping and are out and about most days of the week. I've kind of stopped making the effort of going up there now. If they do ever come to my house they are normally just dropping something off and going again as they have somewhere to get too.

Stop going.

My grandmother tried that shit for half hour with my then 18ish month old. My DD quickly made it clear she wasn't happy and my grandmother caved and we had a lovely day together. If she hadn't I wouldn't have been angry but I would absolutely taken DD back there to be treated like a pariah!!

I can't believe people are still behaving like this...how much longer will they be controlled by this bloody virus...absolutely ridiculous.

Missed your update. Don't invite them in off the doorstep!

@myusernamewastakenbyme

I can't believe people are still behaving like this...how much longer will they be controlled by this bloody virus...absolutely ridiculous.

Very little to do with the virus and a lot to do with having a family of utter knobheads

Stop going round and tell them exactly why. No need for it at all and not fair on DD. Enough of this madness.

Your sister is a selfish brat. Poor little kid needs a relationship with her grandparents. They too will regret missing out in her young cuddly years.

Thanks all, they don't even come in the house, they stand on the drives with their masks on.

No, this isn’t healthy and you need to stop going to them until they put your DD first.

Your sister is jealous and has done a lot of damage. You can’t control your parents relationship with your sister. But you can say Enough about their behaviour with your DD.

I feel for people like this. My Nan is seriously covid anxious, she’s only left the house a handful of times since March 2020 and the times she has left has been for vaccines or dental appointments. She had a plumbing issue recently and she locked herself in another room while the plumber sorted the problem. My Uncle lives with her and he has to test daily, she also cleans everything he’s touched constantly like he’s a potential carrier. She’s seriously screwed up mentally over it and I’m very worried about her. We have visited but we have to shout through an open window at her, she won’t come near us. No idea how she’s going to cope with isolation and tests ending, I don’t know if she’ll ever leave the house again tbh. She’s mid 70s so not very old and in good health.

It’s sad, it’s totally destroyed some people mentally. Your sister clearly needs counselling.

I'm probably more cautious than most because I am naturally quite a cautious person. But I do think that some people have become very comfortable in their masks and 2 metres separation. They may actually prefer it.

My FIL is a bit like this. Always been prone to isolating himself anyway. Likes his own company (as do I) and only really tolerates his gc in small doses. Covid has given him the perfect excuse to retreat further. And he seems happy with that. So I leave him to it. Perhaps your family are similar?

I'd pity them - how utterly devoid of any intelligence and ability to risk assess they are. I'd also ignore them if they treated my child like that.

My brother and SIL have always been on the introvert side of things but covid has turned them into virtual hermits. They are early 50s, no major health issues. They were terrified of covid at the start and have organised their lives with food deliveries, work etc to such an extent that they barely leave the house. They had started to get a bit better but me and my mother have had covid in the last 10 days and my eldest son and his wife currently have it. I doubt we will see them for 6 months. My youngest DIL is due to have a baby in the next month. None of us are expecting brother and SIL to visit the new baby. I think you need to get on with lovely things in your life Op. Other peoples paranoia is very draining.

It isn't good for your DD to be treated this way. I would stop them coming over at all. Tell them until they give their heads a good shake and stop being ridiculous they aren't to come to your house and you won't be coming to theirs.