What would you think of a man doing this?

[BloodyHellNo]

Either being over the top nice.. Compliments, affectionate etc.. Or the complete opposite.. Uncomfortable around you, not speaking, Distant, almost like they can't stand you.

What is going on?

Who is this man to you?

Who is he?
Does it change around certain people?
Or can it change when no one else is around s?

A work colleague.

I would be asking them to act professionally towards you if they’re being affectionate at work.

Are you a potential professional threat career-wise?

@Violetmo0n

Who is he? Does it change around certain people? Or can it change when no one else is around s?

No, it doesn't change around certain people. He will openly compliment me around other people, likewise he will openly ignore me (but speak to everyone else) later that same day.

He sounds like a bit of an arse.

Any history between you both?

@caranations

Are you a potential professional threat career-wise?

Goodness. No.

@Violetmo0n

Any history between you both?

Only a history of the above behaviour on his part. Nothing apart from that.

I always assume that it’s absolutely nothing to do with me and absolutely everything to do with them.l in this sort of situation. If I’m consistent in my behaviour and attitude and they aren’t, then I don’t waste my time wondering what I’ve done when I’m reasonably certain it’s nothing. Chalk it up to a problem he has with emotional regulation or something. Be consistently polite and civil and professional and don’t change how you respond to him based on his own change. If he’s actively rude and it affects your work, raise it with you manager. But beyond that, don’t engage or start trying to needle him for what’s wrong or what you’ve done, it’s his issue.

@ComtesseDeSpair good advice

I never needle him about it, but it does get to me. A lot some days.

Are you wanting us to say that he must fancy you op?

No. Not at all. I just don't understand it.

I had a colleague do this to me, friendly one day then blanking the next ..not weighed down with work or home issues , just game playing . When she did speak to me after a period of blanking i asked loudly and politely in front of others if this was a Speak to Gin Day..cue storming out of room .I did warn her that i would start a grievance if she didnt at least be professional towards me ..we had a frosty relationship after that and I never found out why she did it .

There's not much to understand.
He's a twat.

@WouldIwasShookspeared

There's not much to understand. He's a twat.

Yep. He's well up himself.