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Am I stupid being upset over this?

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Scousesacha · 15/02/2022 20:26

I have a friend from my child's school who I have supported over the past year as she had been through a bad time and I thought she could do with a mate. The bad thing that happened to her left her isolated as her friends ( also school mums) were involved and all fell out with her and turned against her even though she had done nothing wrong. She was the victim in it all but I suppose it made their lives easier to not talk to her.
We were already friends but we became closer during this time and I know she didn't really have any other mates. One of her old friendship group was really vile to her during the fall out of all this and they didn't speak for over a year.
Now it's apparent they're talking again which is nothing to do with me, but now I'm being ignored. They were at the school earlier with their back to me, whispering and did not even look at me which made me feel horrible and awkward. After being her best mate for a year am I now just an acquaintance? If I'm honest I know the whole thing is silly. We're all women in our 30s and it's pathetic but I feel used by her and obviously I thought we were friends. Does she think that little of me that she jumped at the chance to be friends with them again that she can't even look at me? I've cooled off on texting her and I'm not talking to her as much. I don't even know why I'm posting this. I just feel like an idiot.

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Enjoyingaquickdip · 15/02/2022 20:27

That's awful behaviour on her part, so sorry for you x

Mo1911 · 15/02/2022 20:30

School gates and the yummy mummy brigade are so poisonous. Keep to yourself apart from the usual inane pleasantries and concentrate on the people that matter in your life. They'll all fall out with each other again soon enough.

Scousesacha · 15/02/2022 20:48

Thanks for the replies. I'm trying not to let it bother me and normally I wouldn't but I see these people twice a day every day and there's no avoiding them. I'd love to just block her but I think that would make it look as though I'm really bothered.

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Heartofglass12345 · 15/02/2022 22:44

You aren't the pathetic one, believe me. It doesn't matter how old you are, it still hurts when people you thought were friends and have supported through tough times treat you badly. I would keep your distance and not help her out when it happens again

GreenClock · 15/02/2022 22:50

They are pathetic. When they turn on her again (and they probably will) don’t hesitate to be unavailable.

MerryMarigold · 15/02/2022 23:06

30 going on 13!

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 15/02/2022 23:14

You aren’t an idiot.

Your chum on the other hand…?

Bogeyes · 15/02/2022 23:30

Move on. You deserve better

NeverTouchWarmPants · 16/02/2022 07:19

That's really hurtful. God what makes people like this? It's so unnecessary. I really feel for you OP
If I was a playground mum I would have noticed this and would be keeping my distance from them and befriending you
Sit tight and see how it all plays out

Scousesacha · 16/02/2022 08:30

I'm just going to withdraw from her I think. She'll come over to chat if the other one isn't there. I'd love to just blank her to her face but I don't think I can. She comes across very meek and mild and she uses that to get away with treating people badly but I think she's sneaky. Starting to see why she hasn't had friends before.

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