Is this a thing for valentines now???

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Now I will start this by saying when we were dating / engaged my husband and I did do gifts / cards for Valentine’s Day but since we have been married we don’t and our wedding anniversary is the day we tend to mark.

Well this morning, my social media is full of pictures from people I know and the valentines presents they have bought for their children, the kids seemed to be getting multiple gifts…chocs, flowers, pjs, clothes, toys, sweets…One had all the gifts for her child on the sofa like it was a birthday, with a caption “can’t wait for (child’s name) to see this in the morning so they know how much I love them”
it never even occurred to me to purchase valentines items for my children I didn’t realise this was a thing if it had been one person I wouldn’t of thought much of it but seems to be the majority around here….I think it is madness.

It's a regional thing. Jack valentine left us gifts. Born 1980s

FS

When will it end

I made my DD a card and got her a £1 chocolate heart, she was thrilled and has talked about it non stop but she is only 4.

Didn't post any pictures on social media

Me and DH didn't bother with each other.

Some people don't seem to know how to not go over the top

DD got a card and chocolates from DH and her favourite biscuits from me. Nothing sinister behind it, just a nice thing. The dog got nothing though (scratch that, she begged few chunks of brisket off me as I was cooking).

In my part of the world, there's an old tradition of Father (or Jack) Valentine.

He knocks on the door after dark, then runs away, leaving gifts for the children on the doorstep 😀.

I've tried to research this, but haven't got to the bottom of how it began.

My parents still do this for my children, which is great fun.

We don't celebrate valentines day and I get called a grump by family. I love my husband every day, I don't need to buy him a card and gift to show it. I can do that on our anaversy

I used to get my 2 kids a card each with 'Happy Valentine's Day' in it, and some choccies and a little soft toy. As well as something for DH. I can't see the harm, and this was the 1990s, so not a recent thing. Most people I know get their (schoolage) kids a little something.

I think some people need to give up facebook and twitter and instagram, because they get very upset easily (usually when they see people enjoying life......)

My sister sent me a screenshot from insta this morning of someone shes knows who had bought her ds a bike and surrounded it with heart balloons etc..

Completely insane!

My mum used to make me write a card for my step dad, and my step dad used to get me to write a card for my mum. I never questioned it or thought I should have a card myself either. People can do what they like on Valentine's day, it's a choice? If you don't like it, don't do it!

Well I feel a right grump now. I have done absolutely zero for DS who is 7 🤣

He is a child, they normally make a paper heart or something in school, thought that was enough 🤷🏻‍♀️

I can't keep up, and to be fair I don't even try. No Christmas Eve box, no elf on a shelf, Halloween is just a cheap costume and trick or treat. I can't be fucked to be throwing money away on commercial holidays that seem to be getting more and more bizzare and expensive by the year!

Presents are for birthday (which there is one gift) a birthday present. And a few gifts on Christmas day. Easter you can have a chocolate egg or two and on Halloween chuck on this costume for Poundland 🤣 job done.

Meh, each to their own.

I got DD1 a bar or chocolate and DD2 a vest with 'my 1st valentines day' on it.

Total cost 2.00

I don't know.

My Dad used to get me a card as a teen so I didn't feel left out.
My kids have made me valentines cards but I've not made them, they did it at school.

DH and I will have a meal out whenmy parents are up at the weekend.

Meh without sounding like a old git , I remember as a child you got presents at Christmas and birthday and that was that . Now it’s valentines/ Easter / halloween/ 1st December/ Christmas Eve and on and on . It’s your money but don’t complain that your skint and your kids are spoilt brats .

I got my toddler some heart shaped cookies (only two of them that I then ate most of) and few books of fave characters (peppa ‘loves’
Etc). Coincidentally had her sweatshirt and joggers set with hearts on it - on sale and she can wear again as it’s multicoloured so not strictly’valantines’. Me and DH never bother but I found it fun to brighten up February for DD. We are in Scotland and it’s still freezing, snowy, dark and dreich. I use SM but didn’t actually put anything up of the gifts I got her cause I work full time and couldn’t be arsed to stage photos etc at 7am. When she’s older I’ll prob just stick to heart chocolate , card and a book. I try to avoid tat and don’t mind getting books as at least she learns a bit from it and it lasts.

My kids made cards at school so I got them a cupcake each. Didn't post on SM though.

@Jewel52

Please no! Can’t anything just be for adults anymore - just feel kids have enough occasions with Christmas, birthdays Halloween etc

My thoughts too. DH and I don't go overboard for Valentine's Day - a card and some chocolates is about as far as it goes - but it has always been about romantic love so far as we're concerned. It's okay for kids to learn that not every occasion is about them!

I think pretty much every day designed to whip people into a spending frenzy is a load of nonsense.

I’m a single parent haven’t been in a relationship since my divorce.
I brought my children a card each (£1 each) a small cuddly toy and a snuggle type dressing gown - why shouldn’t I ? Is it just couple that can have love in their lives? My kids knocked my door at 6.45 am with a card and morning snuggles.
After school they went and brought me a rose.

Daughter came home with a flower and said one of the girls in her friendship group had given everyone a flower. I thought it was lovely
A whack in the face for all those ‘forced to get one’ as it was valentines - no one left out of the group all got a flower.
After the last crappy couple of years of Covid why can’t we celebrate love, friendship and families x

Someone on my social media has posted pictures of their themed reading books for the day, heart shaped notes with the things they love about each of their DC stuck to their bedroom doors and a breakfast table scattered with themed confetti and tiny chocolate hearts, personalised love hearts at each place setting, heart print crockery, cards, iced biscuits and presents. I wish I was making this up.

I think schools started it with doing valentines day as an activity for people you love Before that it was a couple/romance/sexual type relationships only thing

My kids school doesn’t

Valentine’s Day is about romantic relationships not about the love you have for your children. That said if people want to make it into something different because it’s a bit of fun and they want to, that’s their business. I still find it odd and unsettling though.

My DH bought our dc some real flowers this year, last year I bought them chocolate ones.
We like to give them a little treat as they don’t get much and its only something small but their little faces light right up!

I’m with you OP, we didn’t get our DC anything