What is a good age to first move in with a partner?

[Surinam]

How old do you think is good for someone to move in with their partner?

Obviously you need a partner first of all, and one that you think things will last with.

My DD is 22 and is thinking about moving in with her girlfriend who is 25. They both are needing to move to a new city together which is very expensive, so think it would make more sense if they got a place together. Ideally they'd like their own flat, but may have to share a room in a flat as rentals are insanely expensive.

DD is keen but when I pointed out that this could be the last opportunity she has to live with friends, then she seemed a bit sad. In my eyes 22 seems quite young to move in with your partner, but my mum had me at 21 so!

I was 22, and I was desperate to move out of home but with hindsight, I was too young and it forced me to grow up quicker than I would have liked. He was older, which didn't help.

I moved in with my boyfriend at 19.

My ds is currently 21 and been living with his gf for 6 months. All seems to be going well.

Assuming that your dd is in a rental, she's probably going to end up with a few different combinations of housemates which could include friends.

I think it’s a lot more about the stage of relationship than the age of the people in it, especially in your 20s and early 30s. Especially if there is an element of joining finances (not necessarily a joint bank account).

22 and 25 seems fairly average from my experience if they’ve been together for a while. There’s a lot of posters on mumsnet who say they moved in with someone after a matter of weeks/days but I firmly believe you need to go through all the seasons with someone before even considering living together.

I lived with my first boyfriend when I was 19, in a rented bedsit. It was too young, and we split up because I realised I hadn’t “lived” enough to settle down. I think mid-late 20s is better- everyone should experience living alone and with friends at some point. Although I’d say it’s a pretty normal pattern to spend most of your 20s moving between those states, and that’s a good thing.

I got married at 22. We are still together and own our house and have a baby.

I was 22. I'd left uni, we both had jobs in the same city, it made sense.

I know what you mean op. I moved in with a bf at 23. We were play8ng house quite young. I didnt want to marry him though. I was dragging my heels splitting up with him though. I had to move in to a house share when all my friends were moving out of house shares to get married. I did feel that i hadnt thought things through very well.

21. Still together.

I had flatmates (other girls my age) before then and tbh they always drove me up the wall with their lack of cleaning and terrible music. One of them also managed to set fire to her bedroom and get us raided because she was dabbling in drugdealing. It's not necessarily a wonderful fun filled experience!

I was 22,
That was 10 years ago. Ive never lived with friends but still had/have many all friends holidays and weekends away. And tbh wouldnt want to live with some of them messy pups!

I found living with then boyfriend to now dh from being 22 really nice and easy. We have a great time together and each pull our weight...! She wont miss out on life! And I was married at 23 still did all the things I wanted to do it doesnt hold you back living with a partner if you dont want it to!

I think they're old enough. It doesn't mean it will last forever but it should be a good learning experience. Keep up your close relationship with her and she'll know you'll be there to support her if it doesn't work out. Likewise you'll be there for the good times too.

We moved in when I was 21, he was 23. Pros and cons. That was 14 years ago now.

I was 20, 27 years and 4 houses later still living together.

DH and I started going out at 22, moved in together at 23. We're almost 32 now and coming up to our 6th wedding anniversary.

I was 20. He was 23.
We are now 50 and 53 respectively, two house moves and two children later, still happy.