Unexpected life lessons

[Coffeetree]

At 51, inspired by the "regrets" thread, I'm mulling over the more unexpected bits of wisdom, or surprising life lessons. Not the usual, like avoiding arseholes, but more like:

1. Avoid indecisive people like the plague. Someone should consider, then act. A company wants to hire you, or they don't. Multiple excessive interviews is a red flag. The analogy applies to all areas of life (relationships etc.) Indecisive people will steal your time and energy.

1. Because of ageism/misogyny etc. everyone has a warped idea of middle age and senescence. 40 is basically the beginning of life.

Any others?

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

@Coffeetree

A company wants to hire you, or they don't. Multiple excessive interviews is a red flag.

Hoo, yes. This. The only job in my life I've ever left on bad terms was with a company who faffed me about for three months.

With hindsight, I should have known.

Everyone is capable of being unfaithful.

Trust your inner gut.

Words are cheap. Look at actions.

Blood is thicker than water.

Most people are fair weather friends.

People come in and out of your life and that's OK. If a friend "drops" or "ghosts" you , you've still had the benefit of the times you did share. Life moves on, things and people change and the people we once loved won't always be important to us. That's a good thing.

I've never experienced been kept waiting for a decision, but I do agree any employer who wants you to jump through hoops at the recruitment stage is not one you want to work for.

One positive thing I never expected is that for any scary situation, God (or whoever) will give you the courage you need in the moment.

I never would've believed that even if someone had told me. But it's true!

Celebrate the simple and mundane - make the ordinary special.

[quote AffIt]@Coffeetree

A company wants to hire you, or they don't. Multiple excessive interviews is a red flag.

Hoo, yes. This. The only job in my life I've ever left on bad terms was with a company who faffed me about for three months.

With hindsight, I should have known.[/quote]
I know, right? Same goes for boyfriends, even small things like booking a holiday with some friend and they're agonising over details. Run!

Listen to that inner voice! If it’s screaming somethings wrong take heed

You grow through what you go through,
Comfort can be a cage.
Alot of things that break your heart fix your vision.

While you’re agonising over saying no or letting someone down half the time they don’t actually care, or if they do it’s nowhere as bad as you imagine. It’s very freeing. A cliche too but it’s true.

Make the most of it.
Teamwork is so important
Learn from others around you
A stagnant mindset can be dangerous and limit you.

That most of life is luck, from the times you were born into to the parents you had. You can only control how your life goes within the limits of what's available to you.
You or anyone you love can get an illness, have an accident and/or lose their life and there is nothing anyone can do about it. Same with the your children's health when they're born.
I thank my lucky stars everyday my children and family are ok.

Yes, and successful long-term relationships are also down to luck. I mean, there are some obvious red flags to look out for but unforeseen stresses and personality transplants can happen. I always thought that people with successful long marriages had some secret but really it's 70% luck.