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The Guardian: Pornography

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MenopauseSucks · 12/02/2022 10:50

An article in today's Guardian on the effect of pornography on a young woman's life & her attitude to sex.

It made me so sad to read it. These poor young women. And they say porn doesn't have a deleterious effect of people's views of sex?

I'm relieved when I started discovering sex in the 1980s, it was a journey of mutual pleasure.

www.theguardian.com/society/2022/feb/12/what-growing-up-watching-porn-has-done-to-my-brain-and-sex-life

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DawnMumsnet · 12/02/2022 11:44

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jennywhitehorses · 12/02/2022 11:47

"Porn stars were bald from the eyebrows down, and as we viewed them as the prototype, we copied what they did, removing what little hair was already there."

This is weird. Lots of porn stars have got pubic hair. You only have to look at porn to see that they have. Or read Sara Pascoe's book where she said that it is not true that you never see pubic hair in porn.

This article is propaganda. They want you to believe that all porn is the same and it is all violent.

CupOfNiceTea · 12/02/2022 11:59

Once again I am so grateful that I’m asexual.
Couldn’t live like that and I don’t even mean the sex part, I mean all of it.
So desperate to be liked by men and attractive to them and pleasing and pndering to men.
What a miserable way to live.

CupOfNiceTea · 12/02/2022 12:07

But also the writer seems to hang out with very trashy people, who talks like that with their friends?

EishetChayil · 12/02/2022 12:09

@CupOfNiceTea

Once again I am so grateful that I’m asexual. Couldn’t live like that and I don’t even mean the sex part, I mean all of it. So desperate to be liked by men and attractive to them and pleasing and pndering to men. What a miserable way to live.

You don't need to be asexual to feel that way. You come across as very smug.

CupOfNiceTea · 12/02/2022 12:10

Okey…..?

DolphinFC · 12/02/2022 14:25

@CupOfNiceTea

But also the writer seems to hang out with very trashy people, who talks like that with their friends?
Are you sure you're not being a bit judgemental there? Calling people trashy is a bit poor.
CupOfNiceTea · 12/02/2022 14:33

@DolphinFC

No, I don’t think so.
What she describe the conversations as was just that.

I don’t understand the rage at my comment.

grey12 · 12/02/2022 14:38

@CupOfNiceTea

Once again I am so grateful that I’m asexual. Couldn’t live like that and I don’t even mean the sex part, I mean all of it. So desperate to be liked by men and attractive to them and pleasing and pndering to men. What a miserable way to live.
Just because it doesn't affect you directly, no1 it doesn't mean it doesn't affect you at all, no2 doesn't mean that you get to forget it exists and not care about it. Just because my fridge and pantry are full doesn't mean other people aren't starving 🤷🏻‍♀️
CupOfNiceTea · 12/02/2022 14:44

Of course it affects me!

Do you have any idea how many times I have been prude, virgin, vanilla shamed etc!?!

I’m aloud to feel some relief after all the bullying I’ve been through.
By men and women.

Honestly, you all need to direct you anger at the article, men, porn etc.
I am not the problem here.

jennywhitehorses · 14/02/2022 13:59

I wasn't criticising all celibates. Some people are involuntary celibates. Some don't mind sex but can't be bothered. Some have regular orgasms through masturbation.

The ones that I have a problem with are people who don't like sex who gravitate towards a religion or and ideology which reflects their feelings. Evangelical Christians, Catholics and Radical Feminists.

Take former MP Gavin Shuker for example. I don't know if he is celibate but as a divorced man and an Evangelical you would think so. He stated in parliament that sex workers rarely get to keep the money that is paid by punters.

You wonder where he got that idea from. It doesn't come from Rachel Moran's book Paid For which was mentioned in the debate. Moran in her book wrote that it's about making a 'half decent living'. Moran has little to say about pimps except that she tried being one, she ran her own escort agency in Dublin, but gave it up because of the overheads.

So why do people like Shuker say things like that? They have to invent stuff because they know they can't open their bibles and say 'it says here that fornication is a sin'. So they have to pretend that they have the welfare of prostitutes at heart. This is dishonest. That's what I don't like, the hidden agenda.

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