Name change for this one as its a bit sensitive. My aunt and her husband separated 30 years ago due to him having an affair and her having a mental breakdown. She said she didn’t want to have any contact with him or her DD (8) and DS (6) again. Her husband moved out of the area with the children and sold the house and she declared herself as homeless. My aunt later remarried and settled with someone else but never had any more DC. She has never mentioned her DC again.
My gran is 92 and while in reasonable health for her age is definitely declining. She has started mentioning her other grandchildren more and more regularly and saying she just wants to know they're ok. She still has photographs of them around the house. When her daughter first separated with her husband my gran and (late) grandad contacted his work to ask for his new address and were told he had moved on and they didn't have details for him.
In the age of social media and my gran mentioning them more often it occurred to me the other day to look up my cousins. I found both of them fairly quickly and they have public profiles.
I'm not planning on contacting them but would it be inappropriate to tell my gran that they seem settled and happy?