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Overthinking his actions?

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Musinglife11 · 10/02/2022 01:17

I know you should take peoples actions at face value, but I keep overthinking this?

My good friend is my ex. We split up a few years ago - grew apart. After a 6 month gap we started talking again. January lock median last year we bubbled up and didn’t lots of time together.

He went through a crisis which I supported him through. We became close and got to know each other much better. Life returned and I thought we would drift apart, but no still close. Multiple texts a day and see each other once a week for coffee or dinner.

Thought I didn’t have feelings, but they have appeared in the last few weeks. I have dated others and him too with no jealousy. Both single but active on dating sights. I think he is interested but said one day he wouldn’t ask anyone he knows out as scared of looking like a fool if rejected.

When dating, he kept his son at a distance. I never met him and was fine with that. It’s his choice when to meet.

Now he is keen for me to meet him. Just before Xmas he wanted him to come round to mine. Bit he couldn’t as I was waiting a PCR result. It was a doorstep hello.

I got invited to his house this week for food. His son was there and Properly met him. Now he said he is wants to come to mine for a coffee in Sunday and would be great to meet his son properly and would be good for him to meet my dog.

My friend has had a terrible dating history recently and says he doesn’t trust himself to read the red flags. Joked he needed a wingman to help him see the flags.

Now am I meeting his son as I am friend and mess threatening or is he getting his sons thoughts? Son is 16.

I would talk to him as soon as I make sure my feelings are real and not a passing phase.

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LHReturns · 10/02/2022 01:23

Getting his son’s thoughts??? Even though nothing romantic is actually happening?

I really don’t think men do this with women who they are really into. You can do better.

Friend and his red flag crap sounds like a high maintenance pain in ass. Poor son.

WTF475878237NC · 10/02/2022 01:24

It's impossible to tell. He may just see you as someone who is part of the family now as you've been friends for years and want you to get to know his son in that sense rather than as a potential partner.

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