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Court and abusive ex partner and mother in law

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Pizzaprincess313 · 10/02/2022 00:29

Hello, I'm new on here and was wondering if anyone could please give me some advice. I previously had to go to court because my abusive ex partner withheld my daughter from me for a month. He's on the birth certificate and is her biological father so it was the only way I could have her returned to me. I was granted a child arrangements order and a non-molestation order against him, which was valid for a year. Once the lengthy court proceedings finally ended, everything was going well. He was having her every other weekend at his parents, I was communicating to him through his parents (mainly his mum) regarding my daughter and she would see her dad at theirs and there wasn't anymore dramas between us for a while. However, I stupidly got back with him once the non molestation order expired as I was feeling lonely and vulnerable at the time due to the pandemic... Of course it wasn't long before the emotional abuse continued and within a year, I saw sense and ended things again, though because I'm a massive push over and I was still keen for my daughter to spend time with her father, I gave them a bit more time then was agreed in the child arrangements order for a while until I found out on those extra weekends, he actually wasn't there and it was just his mother spending time with her- he was with his new girlfriend instead!!! So I pushed for things to go back to how they were. Now things have started to become stressful again. His mother has an unhealthy obsession with my daughter and without sounding dramatic, is trying to be her mum and always has since day 1! She has insisted on continuing to coparent with me instead of her son (who litureally does the bare minimum) , has tried lying to me about the court order for extra contact, has got my daughter hooked on calpol, has told my child and other people that's she's her daughter, insists on showering and sleeping in the same bed as her (she is nearly 4 and this makes me extremely uncomfortable) and the icing on the cake for me was that when I said no to her seeing her on one occasion and she maliously made false allegations against me and my current partner to social services. This has been so stressful to deal with, I'm currently 7 months pregnant and trying to move on with my life. I have put my foot and have told my ex that I will only allow him to have contact with our child at mine and supervised as it doesn't state that the grandmother must have contact nor does it have to be at hers, but because he can't be bothered and leaves everything down to her, hes ignored my messages and has stated I've cut off contact and has said to the social worker hes seeking legal advice on the situation. I don't know what to do. I don't know whether to go back to court about this when technically, I havent broken any order, however, I'm worried if I just sit tight and do nothing I'll get into trouble. Someone please help me 🥺

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