Friendship

[User1412]

So I have a friend who lives nearby we don’t see much of each other due to work and family commitments however I would say we are close.
I feel like everything is very one sided.
I came down with covid 5 months ago and I got 1 text to ask how I was and then she inundated me with holiday snaps from Spain!
Bearing un mind when she had covid I was constantly in touch !and she was constantly complaining ! She cancels plans last minute and is generally a bit selfish. I feel really bad writing this but I don’t know if My expectations are too high? Maybe I need to move on from this friendship? Thanks for taking the time to read this

I don't think your expectations are too high, they are reasonable. The cancelling last minute thing is a total deal-breaker for me - I've recently ditched a fairly close friendship for precisely this re chronic last minute cancelling: how to make someone feel they're way down in your list of priorities! I'm simply not interested.

If you can cope you could back off, knowing she's not reliable, either practically or emotionally, but she's still worth having as a friend. If you can't/won't cope with that then fine, it's your choice.

Thank you for answering makes me feel like I’m not being unreasonable

I would say don't cut the friend out of your life altogether, but be realistic about she behaves and act accordingly, eg only make plans to meet up if you are willing to put up with the arrangement being cancelled last minute. If you know she wouldn't put herself out for you, don't feel obligated to put yourself out for her.

It depends where you are in your life - I remember putting up with any number of weird/difficult friends because they were such good fun. I could hack it then. At the mo I'm a bit fragile and can't take any shit, regardless how fun they are.