Coming off a child protection plan.

[Bella3456]

I dont know if anyone has experience with social services but I feel a little disheartened. Ive posted before but long story short I left the bloke they wanted to me to leave a good few months ago. She said the only other problems were house clutter but agreed that i had sorted that out to an acceptable standard. Anyway I had my core group meeting. I had the social worker/ earl help team person who said she had 'no problems with me or the care of my son whatsoever and was dropping her part in all of this' and also my sons teacher. The social worker was VILE. Saying the house was horrendous but then the early help team person interrupted her and said she thought the house was fine. Then my sons headteacher said that on occasions in class he appears tired. I explained that he goes to bed at 8pm (hes 6) and she had a mental breakdown saying it was far too late which I disagreed with as he's bouncing off the walls at 6.30am every day. My social worker then suggested counselling and I politely explained that I want to wait until my son is old enough to look after himself as counselling is very draining and he has after school clubs/ swimming/ play dates. She went INSANE saying im not thinking of my son i argued I am indeed thinking of my son but counselling is very personal and I would like to have it when he's about 12/13 and can look after himself so I have the time. The early help worker was singing my praises but he social worker and head teacher really did not like or agree with anything I had to say everyone agreed son is happy/ healthy and has a wide set of friends and my son also told them he hasn't had any contact with my ex (the truth) I genuinely feel at this point that they may keep me on child protection due to how angry she seemed to be at me? But if I've left my abusive ex which my son also says I have I dont see how they can? Early help team person was sinibgmy praises and also seemed quite shocked with how social worker spoke to me.have also heard terrible things about this same social worker from other people. Arw their any social workers on here? Can they keep you on a protection plan for what seem like trivial things? Thankyou

Surely you just do what you’re asked by social work? They are there to keep your child safe, someone has to, they want you to have counselling for a reason. I have a busy life too, single parent 4 kids, job, after school stuff but if I was asked to go to counselling to help my kids I would you MAKE time. You need to help yourself never go back to him and speak to someone about what you’ve been through. Jump through their hoops, they want to see you doing all you can for your child. Not making excuses and arguing. Surely you left because you wanted to keep your child safe, not because you were told to? Of course school and other agencies will be keeping a close watch on things, that’s their job!

[quote Cocomarine]**@Theunamedcat* and thank goodness for those staff members going out of their way, in their own time, unpaid, to keep your* children safe. Your attitude sucks.[/quote]
My point is I never ever wanted him back there was ZERO evidence I wanted him back I did everything asked of me and more the social worker decided that I did I pissed her off repeatedly stating she hadn't done her mandatory visits she hadn't made any referrals she did fuck all but recycled the original report then tried to take things further when I pointed out in the meeting she wasn't doing her job because she really wasnt every meeting cat is doing xyz as requested children are fine and happy social worker to do xyz months later on repeat I wanted to move on with my life I told them that I was ignored there were "reports" allegedly sent to her saying dd was in tears in school school said that wasn't true dd said it wasn't true everyone said it wasn't true she chose to believe it was true which was ridiculous the school themselves investigated the claims it WAS NOT TRUE this was what I was up against constant "I think you want him back" well I don't "well I think you do"

I didnt then I don't now im free its all I wanted

@Jellycatspyjamas

That wasn’t by chance, I’d absolutely check that an abusive ex wasn’t creeping back on the scene - it’s not unusual for him to reappear once they think the coast is clear. And it’s not at all unusual for women to lie about it so yes, I’d be keeping an eye on drop offs and pick ups, looking for signs in the house that he was living there. We’re there to protect children and part of that is checking up that what we’re being told is in fact what’s happening - I’d rather check and risk pissing you off than be standing over a dead child.

I repeatedly asked them to support me stopping access they said they couldn't because the police chose not to prosecute him so it was just an "allegation" he can pass a DBS check too because all he has are allegations

They have no power to stop access, even in the case of him being prosecuted the CP and access issue is a civil one, rather than criminal - it’s a nonsense but it’s where the legislation sits.