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Running away

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D0lphine · 08/02/2022 21:01

Does anyone think about running away and living a remote life?

I keep watching remote tiny house videos. People living in yurt in the woods etc.

I think I just long for a simple life. Things are just so fucking complicated all the time. All the shit I have to remember is insane.

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Toanewstart23 · 08/02/2022 21:05

No, never tbh

gluenotsoup · 08/02/2022 21:07

Sometimes! I dream of a small coastal cottage and a dog, books, a cafe, windswept walks and no pressure. I don’t think I really mean it, just when life is challenging.

SkyLarkDescending · 08/02/2022 21:10

Yes I do.

Every now and again it all feels a bit pointless and I think how artificial modern life has become. The more I read/listen to podcasts/work on my own mental health, the more I think the solution is to just live a simple life in a cabin somewhere!

I feel so far away from that and feel stuck in my life right now.

dexterslockedintheshedagain · 08/02/2022 21:14

@D0lphine

Does anyone think about running away and living a remote life?

I keep watching remote tiny house videos. People living in yurt in the woods etc.

I think I just long for a simple life. Things are just so fucking complicated all the time. All the shit I have to remember is insane.

Yes. Absolutely.

sonicshoegazes · 08/02/2022 21:22

Yes, completely. There's got to be more to live than this surely?

I just want to pack a bag of books and take my cats and live somewhere quiet. I so miss the quiet.

sonicshoegazes · 08/02/2022 21:23

life

WildPoinsettia · 08/02/2022 21:26

I sort of did. I simplified things a lot in practical terms. I also adjusted my thinking and stopped giving a shit about a great many things. Very freeing.

colouringindoors · 08/02/2022 21:26

Yes. It's a sign I'm becoming overwhelmed and my mental health is slipping.

I imagine getting in the car and driving, far. And living a simple, quiet life.

Opal8 · 08/02/2022 21:27

I want own a bookshop

Always have

bettertocryinamercedes · 08/02/2022 21:35

I'm living in a static caravan on a remote Croft in Scotland. No bills, hardly anyone around.

It's cold and my pillows are damp in the morning when I wake up. I keep falling over the airer I use to dry the towels. When it's windy it feels like we are going to take off.

I can't wait to move back into a house!

Sorry to spoil your fantasy, but make sure you get a warm, insulated yurt 😉

onedayoranother · 08/02/2022 22:32

Nope. Sounds dreadful. I do dream of a gorgeous bijou Chelsea cottage which is also magically big enough to house visiting family at the holidays.

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D0lphine · 08/02/2022 22:53

@WildPoinsettia

I sort of did. I simplified things a lot in practical terms. I also adjusted my thinking and stopped giving a shit about a great many things. Very freeing.

How did you simplify?

I'm desperate to do so but don't know what to drop. I think I've been indoctrinated to think certain things are important.

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D0lphine · 08/02/2022 22:54

@bettertocryinamercedes

I'm living in a static caravan on a remote Croft in Scotland. No bills, hardly anyone around.

It's cold and my pillows are damp in the morning when I wake up. I keep falling over the airer I use to dry the towels. When it's windy it feels like we are going to take off.

I can't wait to move back into a house!

Sorry to spoil your fantasy, but make sure you get a warm, insulated yurt 😉

I completely understand that the reality would bring a load more problems.

Good to dream!

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TokyoSushi · 08/02/2022 22:58

Gosh yes, sometimes I even research houses and jobs in Shetland and the like. But sometimes I also research houses and jobs in Central London so...

I think if I won big on the lottery I'd buy homes in both places!

Mo1911 · 08/02/2022 23:02

I often think of this. I'd settle for even a basic but clean hotel room. Leave room service outside the door and I'd never have to see or speak anyone. Absolute bliss!

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D0lphine · 08/02/2022 23:52

@TokyoSushi

Gosh yes, sometimes I even research houses and jobs in Shetland and the like. But sometimes I also research houses and jobs in Central London so...

I think if I won big on the lottery I'd buy homes in both places!

I was on Rightmove looking at Shetland today.

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onwardsandupwards22 · 09/02/2022 08:21

Can you tell us a bit about your life and we can try and help you think of ways of simplifying?

Toanewstart23 · 09/02/2022 08:33

Do you have children Op?
Friends?
Hobbies?

It’s often not about environment. I could be living in an urban shoe box but as long as my children happy and healthy, I saw my wonderful friends regularly and I was able to run…. Then Id be happy

FindingMeno · 09/02/2022 08:51

Oh yes.
I don't manage well in modern society with all its bureaucracy and stresses.

Loyaultemelie · 09/02/2022 10:22

Yes all the time. If I could find a way to manage on very little money in a very tiny house in the middle of nowhere but still get medication and a few basic groceries delivered and grow our veg I'd be away like a shot. I could be happy in just a glamping pod if I had my cats.

dexterslockedintheshedagain · 09/02/2022 11:41

@WildPoinsettia

I sort of did. I simplified things a lot in practical terms. I also adjusted my thinking and stopped giving a shit about a great many things. Very freeing.

Would you mind telling us what you did that helped you? I, like many others, am becoming overwhelmed by society in general

Mysticguru · 09/02/2022 12:35

I have built home with another person a few times now, always expecting it to be a lasting haven. As the storms came and went the homes would show there weakness and eventually came part. Being left with the dread of sadness and the hollow feeling of unwanted new beginnings, it finally started to dawn on me that if I build a home within myself, a palace of peace created with my own awareness and love, this can be the refuge I have always been seeking.

FindingMeno · 09/02/2022 17:43

@Mysticguru

Deep.

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D0lphine · 09/02/2022 18:04

@Toanewstart23

Do you have children Op? Friends? Hobbies?

I have friends and hobbies.

I have a very busy responsible job.

I have a partner and whilst we aren't actively TTC I'm also not taking any contraception. We're seeing what happens without that becoming yet another fucking thing to put on the to do list.

I'm thinking about the life that I can give my kids if and when they come along. I don't want us to both be rushing around like complete nutters with exhausted kids in tow.

Like I try and think about how I can simplify, but there are so so many things that must be done. Car must be taxed, house must be insured, clothes must be washed, food must be bought. No getting out of those things.

We don't have a cleaner because tbh that doesn't seem like a burden. It's the life admin that seems a bit much. Remembering stuff to do along with work work work.

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