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Year 2 friendship group

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Portlypotatospalpaul · 08/02/2022 20:43

My son is part of a group of 3 that play together frequently at school. 1 of them has started being mean to my son, low level stuff, ignoring them when they are asking them something, not letting them choose a game they want to play, accusing them of never leaving them alone (the other child in the group is very sweet and isn’t party to this) and always following them, as I say, low level issues from an adults point of view, but is really affecting my son and he has been in tears yet again this evening. First time parent here,he has asked me how I can help him not feel sad about this and how to make it stop. Would you have a chat with the other parent? We know each other but I don’t know want to cause any upset, but equally it’s affecting my child.

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Whiteminnowfish · 08/02/2022 20:46

Tell him to choose someone else to play with.

Portlypotatospalpaul · 08/02/2022 20:47

It’s not that simple unfortunately as the other boy is his best friend.

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minipie · 08/02/2022 20:50

I agree I think that teaching your son strategies for dealing with this will help him more in the long run, rather than speaking to the other parent. Play with someone else, tell the mean kid “that’s not kind”, tell a grown up… etc.

IME the other parent may have a different version of events and/or react defensively anyway…

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Whiteminnowfish · 08/02/2022 20:52

I don't think you should speak to the parent as it might cause a rift.

GrazingSheep · 08/02/2022 20:53

Speak to the teacher

Twinklights · 08/02/2022 20:54

Speak to the school

Stompythedinosaur · 08/02/2022 20:56

Encourage him to broaden his friendship circle - it really is the only way. Have some different dc over to play to support him building new friendships.

You can also roleplay woth teddies about how to say when someone is being unkind, when it is appropriate to tell the teacher etc.

Speak to the teacher yourself if it becomes a bigger issue. They can talk to the class about friendship, maybe suggest setting up a buddy bench. The teacher will be able to pair him up with other dc to encourage wider friendships.

Your dc may see the nice dc as his best friend, but the nice dc is happy to go along with the unkind dc being unkind. That might be for lots of reasons, bit it unlikely to change. Also, if your dc doesn't need to play with this group because he has other friendship options, he is likely to be subjected to less unkind behaviour.

lumpofcomfort · 08/02/2022 20:57

Speak to the school, not the parent. I am a year 2 teacher and we deal with this sort of stuff regularly.

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