AIBU - Father’s Day

[VivienneJo76]

My OH went away for a lads golf weekend last Father’s Day so our little one (DD age 5) didn’t see him at all. This year he has planned to do the same - AIBU for being upset that he chooses to go away with friends rather than spend the time with his family? He doesn’t get it at all and says I’m overthinking it and it’s a Mars/Venus thing. I’m trying to see his side but don’t think I’m being unreasonable.

Thanks

I would just crack on and not let it bother me. If he had decided to go away for mother's day then it might be a different matter though. At 5 your daughter doesn't really care that much about it just do father's day on another day and she won't know.

If he’s not bothered by Father’s Day let him crack on 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do you have a Father to visit on the day? Your DD could make her grandfather a card and little gift if you want to mark the day. Clearly your DH doesn't give a stuff.

If he’s not bothered about it I couldn’t really muster up much concern

As a dad I really don't get father's day it a commercialised non event to me .
Very long story I grew up with a violent abusive dad and every year I'd buy cards and presents just because it's fathers day means nothing
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Shops churn out piles of tat and shit that just goes to landfill . Schools nurseries have big drama because not every kid has a dad in there lives so can't make cards and things like they used to .

Make us a brew and wish happy fathers day is enough .

Thanks @LocalHobo yes I do have a father to visit and actually that’s what we did last year so think we will do the same this year. DD is now 6 and will likely be more aware of father being away but I will celebrate her grandad with her instead x

Father's Day/Mothers Day/Valentines day it's all just a con to buy stupid cards and gifts. Let him go and just celebrate it the weekend before.

I’d love a trip away without the kids and the husband for Mother’s Day. They never get the hint though.
I guess it depends how much stock you put on fathers days/ Mother’s Day.

I think it's a bit rubbish as your dd would probably enjoy celebrating with him. You can probably celebrate a different day, though.

Imo he will regret it in years to come when his dc remind him of these priorities..

My DC would get so excited on mother’s/Father’s Day. The thing that made it special was spending the day with DC and the little excited faces bringing me warm buttered, not quite toast, and a lukewarm overly milky coffee 😂opening gifts or home made card etc. DH felt the same.

I think it’s odd to not want to spend time with the DC that actually means you are a father tbh.

I think you should let this go. If he wants to stay home and have a fuss made.over him grand. If he's away he loses out, not your problem.

Father's day? It's not really a day is it? It's an invented American day designed to sell cards. It honestly wouldn't bother me

I cannot imagine my DH ever choosing to be away from the DC on Father's Day. The kids absolutely love making him a card and breakfast in bed or whatever. Nothing commercialised about it, the children just get super excited to 'spoil' their daddy for a day and he loves it.

Your DH obviously doesn't feel the same way. That may not bother some but I'd be a bit sad about that. I love how sentimental my DH is about the children though

He doesn’t get it at all and says I’m overthinking it and it’s a Mars/Venus thing.

Jesus. That would see me booting him onto a golf course for good.

If he isn't bothered I wouldn't be too, OP. My father doesn't really care about it as well, I make a smartshow 3d video card and bring something like a cake or bake cookies and he always says it wasn't necessary.