Tips on raising daughters

[MrsBloxby]

I've read a few threads on here where sisters are warring or have deep seated issues with each other that have stemmed from childhood.

If you have a lovely relationship with your sister, was it because of your parents and if yes what did they do.

Im not particularly close to my eldest sister (only sibling I have) as I feel my mum babies her and expects me to be the responsible one. Also my sister has no filter and often says very unkind things, and my parents have no problem with this- as a result I feel like the odd one out and dont particularly like being in her company.

I have 3 little girls who I love to bits and generally they play and are loving to each other. It would pain me so much if they were not close as adults.

I have two little girls who are close in age and they get on so well together at the moment, I’d love them to remain close as they grow up. I try really hard to treat them both equally even though they are both so different and unique. I had brothers myself so no advice, sorry, but I’d like to follow this thread for advice please.

No advice but I often think about this too. I have daughters aged 5 and 2, they get on fine right now but I'd love them to have a good relationship as they get older.

I’d say never compare them to each other, be it good or bad. In an ideal world sibling are a team, not in competition.

@Nosetickle, thank you for your reply. Its lovely that your girls are close.

Thats what I try to do, treat them equally, even down to cutting the last muffin into thirds!
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@pinkgingham, its good to know there are mums out there like me! Sometimes I worry I'm overthinking things but I do think there are certain things that I can be doing as a parent to foster a bond.

@Catcrazy83- I love that, siblings as a team not competition. Thank you.

A lot comes down to luck I think.

I would agree with not comparing, nurture their individual strengths and talents. Also hard as it is, accept there will be times that they really can’t stand each other. Don’t put pressure on them to like each other or try and minimise their feelings when one is upset with the other.

I always think it must be so hard for sisters not to compare themselves to each other. I have a female cousin who is close in age to me we’re not close, geographically or personally by nevertheless I have always compared myself, less favourably, to her. She’s prettier, cooler, more successful… I think that must be a difficult thing when you have a sister.